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writes:This one is about an online romance...Now before you laugh, it's not something I've ever done before and I had actually met her in person once before. But about a year ago I met this girl online, and over a year we got close and watched each other grow. After months and month it blossomed into a romance. We each started to fall for each other. I fell for her the way I fell for a real girlfriend. True love, we always looked forward to the day we could save to go see other, we shared secrets and told each personal things we'd never told a soul. We kept updated through webcam, pictures and facebook. We became better people through knowing each other and it really was true love... To the point where she now feels like a long distance gf. Now recently we had a fight over trust issues and this new guy in her life who really likes her (she credits me to bringing her out of her shell into the beautiful young woman she is now)Now she feels she has fallen for this new guy she'd just met at a party. She says she loves me still but she has strong feelings for him too. And she's willing to throw away all our time and heart over the year for him. I know this is an online romance for now, but the pain still feels very real... I love her how do I get to remember us and not the new guy in her life? :(
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reader, star2010  +, writes (5 September 2010):
that girl is immature! that is terrible! I have been in a similar situation. if I were you I would disable your accounts or block her from all of your accounts. do not respond to her messages anymore & move on. changes are this hoe will sleep with the guy she met & when he breaks her heart, she'll come running back to you to occupy her time. never EVER allow a person to use you!! you deserve better! tell her to KICK ROCKS homeboy 3 Keep ur head up & stay strong xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): Remember that she is a young beautiful princess, and has the full right to choose who she may date and who she may not. She has already made her choice, and it is the guy she met at the party. Now you have to STOP harrassing the poor girl immediately, and move on. To develop the kind of feelings you explained in these situations suggests emotional disturbances you suffer. Please let her alone and move on. You hurt her feelings enough and ended up hurting your feelings too. Time to move on.
Emily
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 September 2010):
I think you've sadly lost. This other guy is there in her life in person. You're not. And that will be a huge factor. If you're not there in person, relationships so often don't work out. You're not there, while this other guy is.
Given that she now feels strongly for him and is willing to throw you away, your best bet would be to let her go. Try and fight, and you'll wind up either losing her anyway, or she'll wind up cheating.
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