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writes:She simply doesn’t seem interested but I would like your input.LAST WEEK - I asked a woman out for dinner. She accepted but with her friends planning a surprise for her birthday that weekend, she called off our date for Saturday.Friday night we were going to a friend’s concert in town. She called me to ask if I’d be interested in meeting up beforehand. Unfortunately, I had to decline as I had just recently been surprised with an out of town visitor at my doorstep that morning. That night her leg seemed to go out of its way to brush up and linger alongside mine, and she would get very close when we talked but given the flirting between us to date, this did not surprise me.I wished her a Happy Birthday on Sunday and she said she would call me to set a time after work in the coming week.THIS WEEK – I got an apologetic e-mail. She is simply too “busy” this week and excused herself for being such a “bad friend”. Is really doesn’t get any clearer than that. Ouch.Her reasons for being busy are sincere and she did indicate that following the weekend she would definitely be free but I feel I have reason to believe she’s not interested. This weekend our group of friends will be going out. Is it time for me to put this behind me?
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reader, camille  +, writes (9 June 2006):
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSaturday night revealed that she is in fact interested. The date's on.
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reader, thebestof the rest +, writes (2 June 2006):
get rid if she dosent have time to see if it will work then dont waste your time a was in this position and trust me you dont need a hole page full of advice i was better when i got rid of my man trust me i was in the same position trust me XxXxXxX
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reader, miss nade +, writes (2 June 2006):
 Dear AnonymousUnfortunately sometimes life gets in the way of new relationships… and old ones too. I think people give up on each other to readily; sometimes slow and steady wins the race. While flirting was taking place was there consumption of alcohol? Lovers are friends before they become lovers, so I wouldn’t take that bit to heart!Give her a chance, but if you keep missing each other perhaps the timing for both of you is not great. In my experience timing is everything; I have a really good mate we have know each other for about 5 years, there is real chemistry between the two of us but it always seems to work out that for various reasons, we are never single at the same time or if we are then one or other of us is in a different country all together. Yet we remain friends, my point is that something require a little bit of patience.Good luckMiss Nade
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reader, camille +, writes (2 June 2006):
I think you're being a bit hasty! Give it a chance. I don't think you have reason to think she's not interested by the 'evidence'. You say 'she doesn't seem interested' yet you talk of her flirting and SHE invited YOU out before the concert. It was you who had to decline on that occasion so it's not just her.... She may have seen that as an excuse?
Maybe it's a simple case of your free diaries haven't quite matched yet. It's so early to call herself anything other than a friend, I mean how else would she refer to herself? If she'd apologised for being a "bad girlfriend" or "partner" maybe you'd be running a mile!? You have only had 1 date, see how this weekend goes and ask her when she's free. Take it from there. If she seems like she's making an excuse, be up front and ask if that's what it is so you know where you stand. It sounds to me though that she likes you and wants to see you again.
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