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writes:hi. im nearly 17, and was wid my man for 3 amazing months! we broke up 9 weeks ago! the problem is, 5 weeks after we broke up, just when i was starting to give up on him and try to force myself to move on, he called up my best mate and told her that he still loves me, when i heard this i called him and ask wats going on, he says he still loves me! for the next 2 weeks i ask him to pick up the rest of his stuff (we lived togehter in my flat for about 2 months) but he wont come and pick it up. one minute he loves me the next he doesnt! he was the one to say 'i love you' first i responded by saying, 'i love spending time with u!' he stil remembers that!ive only seen he 2 times since we split both times with my mates there! anyways 2 weeks ago i called him and he sayd he wanted to get back together with me and as soon as he gets back to london he'll come and check me! then he lost his phone so i didnt speak to him 4 2 weeks! he got back last nite and is coming to see me later! he says he doesnt know if he stil loves me but he wants to get me back! the problem is his best mate has broken us up twice and i dont want it to happen again, how do i get rid of the threat without f**king things up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007): Wow, tricky situation here girl!
My ex and I split up coz of his best friend as well.
The question in matter is not whether he loves you, but whether you love him. Is he a guy that you can see yourself being with for a long time?
To be honest, I really don't think he sounds worth it, he's messing u about far too much. If there's one thing that I learnt it i that a guy who messes you about doesn't know what he wants. And believe me, men are so hard to understand! So I wouldn't try to crack the code that is the male mind!
In my honest opinion, you need to get rid. He's messing you about big style, and as for his best mate, he don't seem like a mate if he's breaking you two up when being with you is what his best mate wants, I mean, if he's his friend, why is he trying to hurt him and mess up his plans with you?
It would seem that this guy doesn't come without the full package - weirdness and obviously the middle man.
Get rid hun, find someone who really wants you and will do anything for ya coz this guy's mind ain't settled.
Tell him to sort his head out first and decide what he wants.
I hope this in some way helps you. I wish you all the best:)
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