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writes: Been in an on/off relationship with the love of my life for almost exactly a year. We're off right now, and I'm pretty sure we're going to stay that way for a while, and I'm just about coping with it. But it was the 12th December 2005 that we first got together and as it approaches I can't stop thinkning about our relationship, and it's like i'm reliving all the memories again as they come around a year later. I live in a small town and everywhere I go holds memories from when we were together and in love and happy, there's no way of escaping them. I can really see myself spending the next year reminiscing over everything that happened the year before, and it's already beginning to get me down, it's only going to get worse. How do I cope with this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2006): I agree with Jovial. On off relationships are naff!! They decide, er NO, it's up to you. He knows exactly how to pull your strings and have you up and down. Cut the strings for good. If he tries to come back then say NO!! He is playing 'pass the parcel' game with you. When he has had enough, then its off, er NO!
Come on - get some backbone and firmly let him know just how you feel if he comes back. Get your friends rallied around and get out there, it's the party season coming on. So party`!!!!
Take care
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (8 December 2006):
 hi there
i think u need to start making peace with urself and help urself believe that as long as u and ur partner are not willing to work things out its time to make a decision which is good for u. on&off relationship are very unnerving bcos u dont know what tomorrow holds especially if u are the one who really love or need the other, emotionally it is frustrating. i would say forget him and move on and stop hoping for his come back, but u seem so attached and waiting for his next return, do u think this is how u want ur relationship to feel like? always hoping he will come back? how much longer do u think u will be able to switch ur feelings on & off? dont u think u deserve something better? you know its going to get worse why do u keep tormenting urself? u ask how do u cope i say start by focusing ur energy on something better u are still very young and have ur whole life ahead of u relationships come and go, and this one is gone, go out on dates and enjoy urself. good luck
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