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writes:Do many girls /women like older men, what is it thats such an attraction?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2022): There are different kinds of older men. There are the nice, genuine ones who have something to offer. Friendship, love, honesty, respect, care, good company etc. But there are also the boring ones who have nothing at all to offer who simply fancy a much younger woman as a trophy or for fun and sex.
Guys who are so lacking that even if they were the same as as her she would turn her nose up at them. A lot of older men make the silly mistake of assuming that if a woman prefers older then ANY older man will do! They would not assume that if they were talking about her preferring a young guy, but because it is about an older guy and they are older it suits them to think that she has no standards or preferences about the older guy. Just showing how dumb and unsuitable they are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2022): Everyone is different. I always preferred much older men, why? Because I was hard working, educated, always improving myself, and met a lot of young guys who were lazy, losers, no ambition, no drive, nothing about them other than wanting sex, not even intelligent conversation. I was not looking for a sugar daddy to take care of me, I owned a very successful business and took care of myself, I was sick and tired of meeting men of around my age who were losers but expected me to make do with a bag of chips for a date or living in a tatty rented room, or sponging off of me because I had a lovely nice big house and they had nothing and wasted their money as soon as they got it. The older man was more like me, hard working, saving, investing, smart, and not just sex and looks. I saw a much older man for a few years then when I was 25 I started a relationship with a guy who was 62 and we got on great and were together until he died. Now that I am much older my man is just a few years older than me. No need to look for a huge age gap, because at his age he is totally suitable, just as he would have been suitable for me if we had met many years ago. I go for brains, intellect, decency, but many women only go for looks youth and sex. Perhaps they regret it later?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (28 May 2022):
 A bit of a vague question. If your profile is correct, I am assuming you are asking this for yourself?
Based on my own experience and on what I have seen in other females I know, young girls usually gravitate towards young guys, with the attraction being based primarily on looks. As they mature, they look for more in the way of shared interests, good personality, good sense of humour, shared values, etc. Age becomes less relevant as people mature if they get on as a couple. I have seldom known people search out partners by age alone, although it is obviously a factor. For instance, a 20 year old will have little, if anything, in common with someone in their 50s. It's not the age itself which is an issue but rather the life experience (or lack of it) which is attached to that age.
If you are looking to date and finding slim pickings, perhaps you are looking in the wrong places or there is something else putting women off, rather than your age?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2022): It all depends on the couple in question. I am with a younger looking man 14 years older and everything is good. I was attracted to him from the start for what reason I don’t know, but I just was. There was no ulterior motive for this. If someone was attracted to an older man for money then it would show very soon on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2022): I would say very rarely. Just like young men don't want older women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2022): Why do you want to know . Do you have something against dating women your own age ?
It seems creepy when deliberately target women simply because they are younger tbh
And in answer to your questions. I prefer men my age or within a couple of years older or younger
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reader, mystiquek  + ♥, writes (28 May 2022):
 I prefer men my age or a little younger. I married a man 10 years older than me. At first it was ok, but as we aged, the 10 years really made a difference. I wound up being his nurse at the end of his life because he had treated his body so badly. It was very sad and exhausting. If I had it to do over again, I would never go for an older man. My husband now is 5 years younger than me. It is a small enough age gap that causes no problems.
It all depends on the woman, what her preferences are. Some women are very attracted to older men. Its said that older men treat women better. Maybe...maybe not.
My ex husband was very protective and caring when we married and at 24, I think I needed that. As I matured though I found him to be too Protective and stifling. It caused problems. He could be very childish for his age. Quite unattractive. My current husband is very mature and responsIble and always has been.
It all depends on the woman and what she is looking for. I Some women would look for an older man as a sugar daddy. I did not set out to marry an older or a younger man ..it just happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2022): It is definitely not their sexual prowess. It is their money and being taken care of. Funny how younger women think these older guys are more together and mature when in fact, so many of them are immature little boys who don't have it together even when they are old. Some men are pigs and pigs come in all ages. I think honestly that most younger women prefer men their own age and older women prefer younger men. So that leaves the older guys with older women like them. For the most part, it is a big fantasy to think that younger women prefer older men. That just isn't true. Maybe a couple. But it is definitely not the norm. Not these days with all the competition out there. Most older men, unless a young woman wants to USE them for what they provide, not who they are, are overlooked. And once the younger women get tired of using them or they get way too old and start needing diapers, they will move on to the next fool, I mean sugar daddy.
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