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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My fiance and I have been together for about 3 years, 7 months. We got engaged last week (I know, congrats!) but I'm starting to feel weird now. I love him to death and I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him but I'm starting to feel... TOO comfortable. Know what I mean? I wear my ring 24/7 (except when showering and washing my hands) but sometimes I feel that being 24/25 is not old enough to settle down. That and he spends a weird amount of time with his mother whom he used to complain about non-stop. Because of what he's told me, I never really gave her a chance because I simply thought she was a crazy bitch. But now I'm starting to care a little about her and my fiance has been spending everyday. Not exaggerating. Every. Day. With her and it's been like this for a while now. It used to be every Friday when we lived an hour away but now, it's everyday. I'm kind of afraid of what's going on. And lately I've been thinking about my ex more in that I feel like I don't have closure and blah blah blah. On top of all that, I'm still going to college and hold a part-time job.Am I simply just nervous? Am I overwhelmed? What the hell is wrong with me? I just always feel on the verge of tears lately.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2014): If my fiance started seeing his mother every single day after proposing to me I would be freaked out too.I don't know enough about him or his mother to really comment further than to suggest asking him why the change - extreme change - in routine. In fact, it seems a little strange that you haven't talked to him about it.As to your other feelings...it could be that, without meaning to and without necessarily being superficial as a person, you were more excited about him proposing to you, and the build up to that, than you are about the commitment of marriage. It's not impossible that you can feel excited about spending your life with him BUT still have doubts about the actual act of marriage.For me I would not recommend anyone to get married at such a young age - but that's just me - I'd personally suggest wait until at least a decade later - but each to their own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2014): He may be attempting to mend bridges with the impending marriage.
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