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writes: I was seeing a guy 9 months ago for about 6 weeks, we both been single for 18 months due to bad relationship breakdowns. We got on well. Then we said I wasn't taking it seriously enough, that he was falling in love with me, etc., I was shocked and didnt say anything. Next day he told me couldn't handle it and agreed to stay friends. Had miminal contact since then and when I stopped contacting, he contacted my friend! I told him didn't like it and said wanted to try again and happy with being serious. He said we would meet up - that was 6 weeks ago! He keeps saying we will meet up but never makes a definite date. I have said couple of times to forget it, but he was insistent that he was just busy. Last week I gave up and said to forget it, this time he just said 'told you I was out this week'. I replied 'so am I' I didnt want to end it but couldn't stand it going on like it was. I still want to get back with him and will probably see him in couple of weeks time. Do you think I should give up? Reply to this Question
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reader, Delila +, writes (19 September 2005):
Hi,
I think that it was all going a bit too fast for him maybe, or thats how it sounds to me. You are not really sure either. If you meet up with him in a couple of weeks time well and good, see what happens then, but I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for it to happen. Mabey he is being really careful not to get too involved with a girl again for a while or maybe he is confused by his feelings or just has other things on his mind. You want to meet up with him, so, if you are really pushed about it go ahead and arrange a date, giving him a week or twos' notice and ask him to meet you. If he does want to meet you, unless he has booked a holiday or trip away then he will make it. If he makes a lame excuse well then at least you will know that he isn't interested.
Hope you find out soon either way what is going on!
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reader, pops +, writes (19 September 2005):
He's not ready for a serious relationship. Don't push it. Why don't you contact him, and invite him out. This is the 21st century. If you wait for him to make up his mind, he will never do so. Ask him out if you want to see him.
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