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writes: I am thirteen, and I fancy a boy. He says he likes me too. Trouble is he is one of those boys who say things like that to make you feel better. Thing is, I asked him out about a month ago, and I don't know if he is winding me up. Plus, his nephew (they are same age) fancies me. I really like him, and he likes me, but people take the mik. Which one do I go out with? Reply to this Question
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (15 August 2005):
 First of all, don't worry about what "people" do. If you wait for all 6.2 billion other humans on the planet to unanimously approve of your dating choices, you won't get much done. Do what seems right to you and let "people" mind their own business.
I think you need to get to know both boys a bit better before you put too much thought into dating. (Remember, it's not a race. You can wait a few weeks or months to go out with someone.)
Could you invite both boys along with a couple of your friends for a party or an outing? In a group, nobody will feel so shy and you'll get a chance to see how you interact with both these young men and if you click with one more than the other. Another good reason to invite them both to a social event together is that, if you invite both and only one of them wants to attend, you already have your answer about who cares the most about you.
One last thought: don't feel like you "have to" date either one. It's early days in your dating life and, believe it or not, no one else will notice or care if you don't have a boyfriend when you're 13, so you don't have to feel pressured.
Have fun, because that's what dating should be.
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