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female
age
30-35,
*uerratermina
writes:Okay, so I met this guy a couple months ago one night when I was really drunk. I often feel uncomfortable and tense around many people and mostly keep to myself, but this night for some reason I felt incredible. I didn't have any worries, and I talked to a lot of new people and had a really fun time. Anyway, I started talking to him (don't remember much of the conversation- I had a lot to drink), but I remember talking and talking without wondering what I was saying, and I remember looking at him for a second and feeling something. Anyway, he got my number and then the next time we saw each other we slept together. I thought he seemed interesting and cute and funny so I just figured "why not?" Anyway, fast forward to now and I like him a lot but I just don't feel like myself with him anymore. I feel like an awkward bundle of nerves, nothing like the way I felt the night I met him. And I'm also really mean to him and just say hurtful things to him for no good reason. I feel like he just sticks around hoping I can chill out and be the way I was before, but it's been so long and it just keeps getting worse. I know he likes me, but I feel like he's embarrassed of my behavior sometimes when we're out.I think about him a lot, but the whole thing is just so stressful. I used to go over little things he said/I said in my head over and over and worry about whether or not he really liked me etc. but now I feel like it's just not worth it. I want to be with him. He's amazing. But not like this. Isn't it supposed to be fun? I will miss him though if we end it. I tried ending it before but kept going back. So what should I do?Anyone have any advice??
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2010): you are so very young. i cant help but feel you are pushing him to keep from being hurt? if you realy care for him care engough to be honest with him. loving someone is scary we have to start by loving ourselves. take it one step at a time be kind to yourself and him see what happens.
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