A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hey guys I need some advice, The relationship info: 2 1/2 years. Long distance relationship (im in college an hour and half away and with one year left, hes in full time work with weekends off) we see each other every other weekend and during the holidays. The relationship I believe is good with the LDR situation. However, up until a few weeks ago things have been off. I noticed that my boyfriend had changed, by this i mean not his cheery self, the way he was with me is different. It feels like he's being formal with me.Then it came out one night that he wasnt happy with things and with us, and after a long a thorough talk we had sorted things out and after that it was good.When I came home last time we hadnt seen each other for two weeks I thought that it be like normal, he be missing me and we be loving ever bit of each others company. it felt completely opposite. He didnt seem that bothered to see me, and instead of when we got to his he be eager to make love he wanted to proceed with watching (TV), this sounds silly i know but for my BF this is so unusual. Anyway I played it down to a hard day at work so in the nightime I was dressed in sexy underwear and he turns around and says he wants a shower. All weekend things seems a little off with my BF so I confronted him about it, he keeps saying its his work getting him down and its got nothing to do with us, I want to stand by him but I just keep wondering what to do. Whenever were on the phone lately its only for 5 minutes and we only speak once a day when were apart. Whenever I tell him i love him or miss him he says it back but it feels automated. He also gets irritared easily lately whenever I try to talk about this to him. I know my bf well and I love him dearly and I want to be there for him. But im having a hard time believing its just work and he just seems happy enough thinking that it will sort itself over in time. Does it sound like hes having a hard time in his own life and I need to be patient and give it some time and take a step back despite that his behaviour has changed towards us. Or should I call it a day? Ive tried to help him but I feel like its something only he can change for himself. Any advice will be appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): It sounds as though he's distancing himself from you. Not communicating as much as he used to, not interested in a sexual relationship. Have you asked exactly what's transpiring at work to make him become aloof to you? It could be work related, or perhaps he's met someone else. Either way I hope you uncover the truth.
Good luck
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