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writes:My husband and I have been married since April of 2011 and I am the experienced one and he was not he has come a long way but he can't seem to handle me wanting sex every day I used to like it multiple times a day. I am ok with getting it once a day but he seems to be getting tired of doing this for me. I am on antidepressants that really lowers my sex drive but I still want it bad every day he thinks I am addicted but I am not because I don't go out and sleep with other people. It is starting to be a problem like last night he couldn't keep it up when we were trying to have sex so he looked away and was able to get him off with my hands that way. If he can't keep it hard while we are doing it or even looking at me what does that mean? Is there a way I can lower my sex drive more so I don't want it every day I am afraid eventually I won't want it at all if I lower it more or try hard to block wanting it daily. I know several men who would kill for a wife that wanted it daily so this is so frustrating to me and I know it is to him because he keeps telling me he has never had a women that gave it to him as much. What are we to do it is very depressing to me and frustrating to him and me.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (18 July 2011):
 Did you wait until you were married to have sex with him?
Has it always been this way?
I am going to give you the same advice that I give men in this predicament.
That is your SPOUSE. He is not your personal sex vending machine. Your statement "tired of doing this for me" shows that you feel he is providing a service to you.
Please do not ever speak out loud "other men would kill to have a wife that wanted it daily". He may be overwhelmed.
Most couples do not have matching sex drive and there will be highs and lows. Give the poor guy a break and take care of your own need when he is just too pooped to pop.
Back off a little and bring LOVEMAKING back into the mix,not just a way to give yourself relief.
Are you on the antidepressants to lower your sex drive or to help with depression? Either way, you may want to talk to your Dr. about changing your dose.
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