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writes:Hello people of the internet.I am 16 and just got a new girlfriend (that I adore) a few days ago. We went to the park the second day we started going out. Things are going ok, we're having fun and all, but it feels kinda awkward. I'm sure it's because we just started dating, but I'm "still young and ignorant" according to my philosophical friend. And he is right!I was really hoping to get some advice that anyone may be willing to offer about new relationships. Getting close, taking her out on dates, kissing, the whole 9 yards.Thanks in advance, FallingForHer
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reader, anon642  +, writes (3 October 2008):
 Firstly, congratulations on your new relationship :)
With the awkward situation, i think it has a bit to do with how confident you feel around her and also how much you know each other?
If you only know certain things about one another, then go to the park/movies/anywhere, more often and get to know each other, make sure you let her know you're listening as in dont change the subject suddenly, and she will pay great attention, this will then let you understand each other more and in time the 'awkwardness' will go.
If you only spoke a little before you got together, compared to what you do now, this is why it feels awkward, because your not used to spending so much time with your new girlfriend. So basically, its all a learning road..getting used to each other, what one likes/dislikes etc.
That is what a great relationship is about, not just intimacy and always trying to make each other proud..but spending time together, appreciating the other's company, letting her know that if she has problems with her friends/family/anything, she can turn to you and that you'll support her.
So basically, you have answered your own question.
You asked why it was so awkward and how to get rid of this, then in the next sentence said about getting close, going out together, kissing etc.
There's your answer, right there.
Like i said above..
Go out, get to know each other well, at this stage the awkwardness will go and you'll feel you can both appreciate and support each other, then eventually you can start to talk about kissing (depends if your first kiss? if it is, definately dont rush things, is it her first kiss aswell? when the awkwardness goes..talk about this)
Once you know each other well, have started kissing, you'll feel great and have a wonderful relationship.
But basically i think its a case of talking, listening and letting everything else follow naturally.
Its simple..there's no rush, like you said, you adore her, and what girl wouldn't want that. So why rush if you both feel that way? :)
Good Luck!
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reader, Intimate Answers +, writes (3 October 2008):
Dear Falling for Her,
Your innocence is precious and refreshing... Congrats on your new relationship. The way to get 'good' at this is 'on the job training'.
In order to get close, find out what she likes - be thoughtful, caring and take your time getting to know one another. Talk to her... and LEARN to be a good listener by repeating back to her what she shares with you - she'll know that you truly understand her.
Do things with her - study for school, play video games etc...
There are few things more beautiful than knowing that you respect one other and can be trusted with each others emotions.
bEcause you are so young, I must bring up the subject of 'physical' intimacy. Although I do not agree that it is appropriate for younger folks, I do acknowledge that many are crossing that line.
It is easy to get carried away as you bond... not always wise!!! Quite often what's done in the 'heat of a moment' can yeild unexpected results that last a lifetime. Everything in me would hope that you would wait - be smart and responsible!
I TRULY wish you the best!
Much Love and Many Blessings!
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