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| | anon642's profile:Hi there, im 18 and live in the UK!
Im currently in a long distance relationship, of which i am very happy!
I haven't exactly got a 'qualification' in helping people, however i love the idea of anonymous agony aunts and my feeling of actually giving someone advice or your opinion on something is actually quite fulfilling.
There are numerous topics on this site where people post their problems and yes, being 18, i admit i am young and therefore i dont have as much experience or knowledge that others have on here, but that shouldnt stop me, or anyone else, giving advice.
So basically i am going to give advice in areas i can and hope that someone will be able to benefit from it. All the best to everyone :) |
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I'm too sexually active for my liking, how can I calm down?
Q. I am really sexually active, last night I slept with a friend of mine and tonight, where my friends and I are going, there's this guy who wants to sleep with me and of course, I'm sexually active and I said ok. What's wrong with me? So far in my ...
A. 18 November 2008: Okay personally, i know girls who are your age and slept with triple what you have, HOWEVER..like yourself, i agree its quite a few.
Forget what everyone else thinks for a moment, if you believe that you have slept with too many people the only pers... (read in full...)
If we both put effot into a LDR, will it work?
Q. I am 18 years old. I moved from idaho to kentucky for my boyfriend we have been together for almost a year. I put my life on hold for him for 5 months now. Well I decided to go to school back in idaho. So I am going home. Both of us have been ...
A. 14 November 2008: Hi i also am in a long distant relationship and i too, wonder whether it will work but i'd just like to say that after reading the answer from britt429, i'd definately give it a shot, they always say that the first month is always the hardest..and ... (read in full...)
I've got the Christmas blues and it's not even December...
Q. Dear cupid, I'm 14 and I have no idea what to get my boyfriend for christmas. we are currently at the 3 month mark but by christmas we'll be in to 4. I want something meaning full but not completely mushy. from, Christmas blues...
A. 13 November 2008: Is he into games for xbox/playstation/wii/ds? (anything else i've missed as theres so much out there lol) anyway..point is..you could always ask him if there's a game he really wants, and if so, just say ''okay and your sure your parents aren't ... (read in full...)
Sex with a fat burd?
Q. Sex with a fat burd? Ok I exaggerated there. I am not fat fat, I weigh about just under 9 stone but I feel huge. It has been just recently I have put a lot of weight on and it lowers my self-confidence. I am paranoid that when my time comes to br...
A. 10 November 2008: Honey please.
My circle of friends involves me and 4 other people, and we all range from 7 and a half stone, to 10 and a half stone.
And i personally think that all of my friends look amazing. I honestly do.
9 Stone is such a healthy weight it re... (read in full...)
My ex bf is texting my best friend to have sex with her!
Q. so me and my bf split up about 3 weeks ago and ever since has been texting my so called best friend to meet up for sex i don't know if they have for definate but his best friend insists they have. Anyhow i have just found out i am 14 weeks preg...
A. 5 November 2008: Hello honey :)
Really it is a case of are you keeping the baby because if you are, sooner or later he is going to see you 'changing'.
If it is true that your ex and your 'best friend' are meeting up for sex, then they are not very respectable... (read in full...)
Does she actually like me or not?
Q. Okay so, a bout 2 weeks ago there was a girl who randomly came up to me and asked me if I was actually a lesbian or if it was just a rumor. I told her I was and she said something like "thats cool and don't worry about the people making fun of you ...
A. 2 November 2008: Completely agree with Qcumbr1. It's all mind games and stressful. Although it sounds like this girl isn't sure what she wants, you really need to find out, but give it a rest for a few days and then ask. All the best :)... (read in full...)
Should I tell my best friend's girlfriend that I like her?
Q. I have developed a great friendship with this girl, that has gotten to the point of awkwardness every now and then [which for some reason feels right]. However she is going out with my best friend and he and I are truly best friends and she is ...
A. 2 November 2008: I think its great that you can get on with your best mates girlfriend, many people have trouble with this or don't get much of an opportunity to get to talk to them. However, you've developed feelings and in all honesty, no i wouldn't tell her. The... (read in full...)
What's the best way to meet up?
Q. Hi guys, quick question, not immedialtely love related, but close enough. Only UK residents need answer due to obvious reasons Two people want to meet. One lives in Colchester, Essex one lives in Cannock, West Midlands. What's the best place a...
A. 31 October 2008: Ok from a simple google search your approximately 3 and a half hours from each other. You haven't mentioned if either of you can drive, and are willing to drive to the other or only so far? If not, then there is train. However this can get expensiv... (read in full...)
Jerk or nerd - which do I choose?
Q. ok here we go... well im 17 and leaving school soon. i have been going out with a guy in my school since i was in grade 9. but recently i have noticed my feelings for him arent that strong anymore. When we kiss i dont feel anything-at all. And...
A. 6 October 2008: If your leaving school soon, why will it matter? Everyone will go their different ways and you'll actually find (myself just left school) that everyone actually sort of opens up their individuality more. If you dont agree with the pushing around e... (read in full...)
My abusive ex says he has given up drugs and alcohol. Is it possible that he could change? Should I take him back?
Q. I recently broke up with an abusive boyfriend. We have two children together and were together for 3 years. He had a drinking problem, and a problem with drugs while we were together. He says that he has given both of it up and that they both were ...
A. 6 October 2008: Yes i think he could change.
If he has been going to these N/A meetings, then he's seeking help for his problems, which is great. Its a way of him showing you that he's taking responsibility for his actions and a way of apologising.
It's also him... (read in full...)
What will happen if the child is born?
Q. Hi It has always been going good with my hubby who is polite and caring. Then there came another guy whom i have known for years and have real care and concern for him. There was no guilty feeling until i was roaming with him and buying things. ...
A. 6 October 2008: First of all, i really want to sort this part..
'What will happen IF the child is born?'
Does this mean you are not ready for a child or thinking of not having this baby.?
If not, your 3 months pregnant, time is running out.
You really need to c... (read in full...)
If a girl says a guy is "so sweet," is this bad?
Q. Hi, This girl that I like, but am confused whether or not she likes me back "in that way," said that I was "so sweet." After reviewing various websites, I am confused. Some say that a guy being called sweet by a girl is a bad thing. It means...
A. 6 October 2008: I wouldnt think of it in a bad way.
I say it to my boyfriend a lot.
She likes you as a person, which is great, but you need to find out other things first in order to know if she likes you 'in that way' or not.
But don't think of it in a bad w... (read in full...)
What can couples do under 16 without going on the wrong side of the law?
Q. My girlfriend and I r both 14 and we both love eachothers company. But once we we were both at a sleep over at a friends house and we ended up sleeping in each others arms, with me wearing nothing but boxers. Neither of us minded excpt that one of ...
A. 6 October 2008: Kissing and thats all.
I am sorry to hear about the photo being posted on facebook and it causing trouble at home, but its going to be a case of whether your mother believes you or not.
You can't prove you didn't have sex. She's going to have to ... (read in full...)
If I get pregnant what would I do?
Q. Hi another one form me My boyfriend keeps suggesting sex. But as I am only 15 and it is against the law at the moment, I am scared of what people will think or if I get pregnant what would I do? I do want to but above are my worries. What shall I ...
A. 5 October 2008: Hey,
It doesnt sound like your ready for sex.
However, now that you are talking about it with your boyfriend, it would be a good idea for you to go to your doctors and get yourself on some reliable birth control (probably the pill). And get some... (read in full...)
I don't know who the father of my baby is and I'm only 14 yrs old.
Q. I'm 14 and pregnant. I'm due in December. But... I don't know who the father is. It could be one of two people. My boyfriend who has stood by me or my friends cousin who i had a one night stand with. My boyfriend can't wait, but if the baby isn't ...
A. 5 October 2008: Hi, all i can advise is getting a DNA test when the baby is born :)
And if it turns out your boyfriend is not the dad, try not to worry too much, just calmly sit him down and tell him, after all, you all need to know the truth. You need to know for ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering..what are the chances that I am pregnant?
Q. SLIGHT PROBLEM! Opinions welcome. My period is a little over a week late. I've done 2 pregnancy tests and followed the directions precisely. They both came up negative. I've had some spotting for the past few days but have had no other pregnancy ...
A. 5 October 2008: Hii i know you wrote this a couple of days ago but thought id just say that i dont think you are pregnant, but its not going to do any harm to go to the doctors, at least they'll be able to give you a definate answer :)
All the best.... (read in full...)
Intimacy with my first cousin..was it wrong?
Q. hi i had a intimate relationship with my first cousin, we were together for four months and then decided to have sex, but i became pregnant and was made to have an abortion because i was only 17 and my family didn't approve, now me and my cousin d...
A. 5 October 2008: Yes, confront him.
If it goes bad, you say you dont see each other now, so you'll just be able to carry on not seeing each other.
However if he feels the same way, then its up to you two to decide what to do next. You are both adults (19 now yeah... (read in full...)
Which one of us is more likely to be the father??
Q. I had sex with my ex on 6th of september, 3 days after her period, she then had sex with another guy on the 14th of september. she is now pregnant, who is more likely to be responsible for the baby, me or the other guy?...
A. 5 October 2008: You really cant tell.
You cannot be 100& sure until you have a DNA test done.
She needs to figure out whether she wants to keep the baby, so talk to her about this.
So if she does keep the baby, DNA test is the only way.
All the best.... (read in full...)
Could I get pregnant from this?
Q. my boyfriend and i were fooling around one night with our clothes on and he came on me and neglected to tell me for a few more minutes. the whole time pretty much his penis was centered right on my vagina. he said his jeans were not TOO wet and my ...
A. 5 October 2008: No but buy a pregnancy test just to be on the safe side.. Also, why dont you look into birth control? So when the time comes, at least you'll be protected :) All the best.... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with him? I told him I love him.
Q. I am a 16 year old girl, I'm a virgin, and I have been in love with a guy for 6 years. I know he has never felt the same, but we are planning to have sex together. I trust him completely, and I feel so ready to be with him. He's nearly 19, and all ...
A. 5 October 2008: What I want to know is, do you think I should still go through with this??
No. Infact, end this 'thing' my dear, he's playing you.
Should I have sex with him??
Definately not.
Dont cut yourself loose.
He's a young 19 year old, (yes, YOU... (read in full...)
I might be having sex on Saturday, I need to be prepared...
Q. I might be havein sex on saturday with my best friend. We are both 15 im a male virgin and she has slept wiht bout 7 guys. Can someone please give me some advice on sex as a whole? Thanks for your reply James =]...
A. 5 October 2008: cant give you advice on sex as a whole cos im a virgin myself. but; like everyone else, i cant stress enough how much you really do need to use a condom. dont just buy one, buy a few. And i dont care if your allergic, we are both from the Uk a... (read in full...)
Is this abuse? Should I get out of my relationship now?
Q. Should I get out of my relationship now? I am currently taking a break from my relationship with my boyfriend because I am working on issues from my past. My question is if he is abusive. Since we've been together for about 7 months a few things ...
A. 5 October 2008: I agree with hlskitten.
I think you should put the relationship to end.
And i personally think that you should go and see your doctor and get refered to a counsellor, something like seeing a counsellor once a week for about 10 weeks, just to disc... (read in full...)
There are two girls in my life....
Q. There are two girls in my life. The first, she and I met a while ago, through friends, kept in touch through emails and MSN and the likes, always talked of meeting up, just the two of us, but it never really happened. She met some guy, and out...
A. 5 October 2008: Okay, honestly..if you feel in the exact way as you have wrote..you need to forget about hurting girl B's feelings because as you have said...''I can be a great friend to her, but I know that myself I am not strong enough to support her and her ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want solitude?
Q. I'm a really quiet person...and I like weekends to be spent all by myself, in my room..doing homework or reading a book. Or going to the gym. That's how I am. I go out with friends sometimes...but not often. And I don't have a huge group like most ...
A. 5 October 2008: Don't start questioning yourself. If you are happy doing these things then don't feel like you are a loser and that you won't be seen as normal unless you interact more in going to social interactions.
Being 18, i can legally go to a club and drin... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want solitude?
Q. I'm a really quiet person...and I like weekends to be spent all by myself, in my room..doing homework or reading a book. Or going to the gym. That's how I am. I go out with friends sometimes...but not often. And I don't have a huge group like most ...
A. 5 October 2008: Don't start questioning yourself. If you are happy doing these things then don't feel like you are a loser and that you won't be seen as normal unless you interact more in going to social interactions.
Being 18, i can legally go to a club and drin... (read in full...)
I feel like a failed mother as my son masturbates all the time.
Q. I am I concerned mother, my son is 14 years old, and he masturbates, but the thing is that, he masturbates anywhere he wants, last night we were having dinner, whith my husband, my other son and my two daughters, and he just started masturbating ...
A. 5 October 2008: Hmm.
This ones interesting.
Simply because the comments are very true indeed.
Either someone is playing some sick joke, or there any many users in the house using this site and they are not logging out.
Either way, im quite concerned both at th... (read in full...)
If a college girl spends nights nude in bed with her boyfriend, and gives him handjobs, but no sex, would she be thought of as a slut?
Q. If a college girl spends nights nude in bed with her boyfriend, and gives him handjobs, but no sex, would she be thought of as a slut?...
A. 5 October 2008: Why should anyone else know what this girl and her boyfriend get up to in their private time.
Its their relationship, just them 2, nobody else needs to know.
However, if someone did say to me, that their girlfriend spent the night nude in thei... (read in full...)
There's a mosquito bite on my eyelid?
Q. i am worried about an insect bite that had bitten me on my eye lid. i think it was a mosquito. now my eye lid is red, swollen, and itchy and i don't even have an eye lid anymore. it's only the first day now. it feels uncomfortable. please help, i ...
A. 5 October 2008: First..dont panic!
Second..Make an appointment at the doctors, i dont agreee with skipping school but until you know what this is i would advise you not going and getting your parents to pop in or ring up every morning just to explain you wont be i... (read in full...)
I wanna have my own baby!
Q. ok im 13 and i wanna hav sex i already told ma mom to put me on the pill. she already made the appointment. i wanna have a baby wat do i do. i raised ma little brother all by myself and i loved it i want to do it again but with ma own baby. ...
A. 5 October 2008: Okay first of all i think the only reason your mum has agreed to make you an appointment at the doctors to go on the pill is to basically respect your wishes that you actually told her you were ready for sex as many girls just go out and have sex ... (read in full...)
So should I stay friends with her or should I go with the plan of never seeing here again?
Q. I have a problem with a girl. Me and this girl have known each other for around a year now and we enjoy talking to each other and spending time with each other. Now the problem lies in how we think of each other. I did ask her out but got a no ...
A. 4 October 2008: Oh i see, thanks for clearing that up, however, after reading the answer below this, i rated it excellent and totally agree with it :)
Good luck and all the best for the future.... (read in full...)
So should I stay friends with her or should I go with the plan of never seeing here again?
Q. I have a problem with a girl. Me and this girl have known each other for around a year now and we enjoy talking to each other and spending time with each other. Now the problem lies in how we think of each other. I did ask her out but got a no ...
A. 4 October 2008: There's no need to never see her again.
You say you like her, and have liked someone this much before but because that ended badly, you were left feeling depressed, and now they hate you. Presuming that you obviously dont see/talk to them now.... (read in full...)
How can I be pregnant if we haven't actually gone all the way?
Q. Hi, I'm 18 an been with my boyfriend for 2 years, we haven't had sex yet but I have skipped a period an starting 2 feel sick in the mornings! I'm so scared I really don't want 2 be pregnant:(! How can I be pregnant if we haven't actually gone all...
A. 4 October 2008: First of all, please dont panic.
Panicking will not make you pregnant/not pregnant.
Get a pregnancy test. Do it and go from there, however i would also go and see your nurse ASAP to ask about why you skipped a period.
Be prepared for the... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a period after the date you could have gotten pregnant?
Q. I'm only 15 years old and I know the consequences but I was curious. Is it possible to have a period after the date you could have gotten pregnant because I am having many symptoms of pregnancy but I have had a period after the possiby date of ...
A. 4 October 2008: Yes it is possible,
my auntie was pregnant and had a 2 day period every month of the pregnancy.
But dont start panicking, if your pregnant, your pregnant.
If your not, your not.
The best thing for you to do is get yourself a test and an appointme... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be virgin at 18?
Q. I'm a male, 18, and still a virgin but all of my friends aren't. I'm afraid that i will be made fun of for being a virgin if they ever find out. Is it normal to be a virgin at 18?...
A. 3 October 2008: Hey like many others have already said, id just like to say;
Dont worry about other people, im 18 and female, and im a virgin.
But i really dont care, i have a boyfriend and i couldnt be happier.
All my friends have boyfriends and have had sex... (read in full...)
I never kissed anyone and now I might like a boy!
Q. A guy really likes me and he keeps asking me out. I think I like him too but I'm really not sure. I'm really worried about kissing him as I've never kissed anyone before. Please help :(...
A. 3 October 2008: You say you think you like him but your really not sure?
First of all, you need to figure out if you do actually like him.
If not, things should end there.
If you do, then why not give it a chance? Don't let kissing get in the way! It's nothing... (read in full...)
What can I do to make her like me more than just a friend?
Q. Hi, I have already asked about a girl who I thought was taken, first of all I would like to thank people who replied and second I would like to say that I can now cofirm that she is actually single, I got it wrong. The problem is I asked the girl i...
A. 3 October 2008: Just be yourself around her, dont act differently.
She see's you as a friend, so be thankful that she's in your life.
Just continue, pay attention, laugh about as friends do and who knows, things may develop.... (read in full...)
Is a long distance relationship worth it?
Q. About a year ago, this girl moved from LA and we've been friends since. We met at a church which we attend very so often. She is absolutly amazing. She has great personality, she's very cute and has an amazing body. The thing is, she lives too far ...
A. 3 October 2008: First of all, does she know how you feel about her? If so, what is her thoughts on relationship where you only physically see each other 3/4 times a month. Personally, i would love to see my boyfriend 3/4 times a month, i like in the UK and he li... (read in full...)
Is there any point to this?
Q. hi i need some opinions more than advise. I really like this girl who lives three and half hours away but i know i will only see her once in the next year and i keep saying to myself theres no point. What should i do cheers!!...
A. 3 October 2008: Ask yourself some questions..
Are you happy with the way things are currently between you?
Does she really like you? 100% sure?
How often do you think about her?
How would you feel if you never spoke to her again?
How would you feel if you ne... (read in full...)
New girlfriend and I'm clueless! Help!
Q. Hello people of the internet. I am 16 and just got a new girlfriend (that I adore) a few days ago. We went to the park the second day we started going out. Things are going ok, we're having fun and all, but it feels kinda awkward. I'm sure it's be...
A. 3 October 2008: Firstly, congratulations on your new relationship :)
With the awkward situation, i think it has a bit to do with how confident you feel around her and also how much you know each other?
If you only know certain things about one another, the... (read in full...)
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