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writes:Hello everyone! I am 17 years old and I recently just got into my first relationship. I have never been in a relationship before because I was always to focused on my GPA (it's a 4.0). Anyway this girl has some experience which kind of makes me uncomfortable, I told her she's my first real girlfriend and that I have absolutely no experience on this stuff and really do not know what to do as in kissing, making out, cuddling, etc. You get what i'm saying. She says she thinks it's cute and said we will learn together. She wants to kiss me and make out with me but I have no idea what to do! I personally have never kissed anyone in my life. Not even my parents =(. Anyways I am extremely nervous yet very excited at the same time to experience this stuff. This question sounds very stupid but how do I cuddle with someone? what do I do to my lips to kiss someone. It sounds stupid but i'm being honest--I never experienced this stuff.I just don't want to look like an idiot and screw up. Will you guys help me please? I know it's a very stupid question. Danke sehr (thank you very much)
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reader, missyfit +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Hello Dear,This brought a smile to my face because you sound EXACTLY like my boyfriend! He's a smarty pants and didn't ask me to be his gf until prom night so his grades won't slip! I was his first girlfriend and well, he's my 3rd. So you can see, I'm somewhat you can say "experienced" Doesn't that sound familiar? :P Anyway, I must say.. our first kiss was amazing. Well, it was somewhat a peck on the lips so that was fine.. BUT as time goes on, he tried to make out with me.. and well it didn't turn out as well as I planned. He wasn't a great kisser AT ALL. maybe because I was his first afterall, but I taught him how to kiss... And now, let's just say, he blows my mind! He's an amazing kisser now. I think it just takes practice and you really have to learn from your gf how to do it... Sometimes copying her works. It's pretty much just practice.... PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE! i know your gf will enjoy that :) and this is not a stupid question.. okay? I didn't know how to kiss before either! I think everybody doesn't! So don't be ashamed. :)
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reader, Odds +, writes (24 February 2011):
 It's not stupid, everyone has been through that phase at some point. Do you think other people magically knew what to do their first time around?
It sounds like she's already pretty understanding, so just keep that in mind to take the pressure off.
Let her take the active role at first (she sounds like she'll be into it). When she does something you like, wait a few minutes then try it yourself. Go from "being kissed" to "kissing," in other words.
Cuddling is easy - lie on your back, let her rest her head on your shoulder (scrub your pits nicely that day so they don't stink too bad; some smell is ok, though). Or be the big spoon, and put your arm wherever is most comfortable.
Kissing seems like it would be complicated, but you'll have it more or less figured out within a few minutes. Just go slow, and pay close attention to what she does.
Above all, remember, it's not about doing it right, it's about enjoying it. This is a journey, not a destination.
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