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writes:hey guys i dont know what to do. im 19 and never been kissed, on a date, etc. its not like im ugly or weird. im 6'2", pretty built, i play football and basketball, i go out and everything. I think my main problem is 1. i get extremely nervous whenever i am around girls. Like to the point where i sweat, and turn completly silent. and 2. im always scared to make a move on a girl because i feel so worried that ill look like an idiot cause i dont know what im doing if we do end up making out. i dont know what to do, its really pathetic, all of my friends, and everyone i know has have at the very least made out. its come to the point where everyone thinks that ive made out with a girl just because im 19. what can i do to get past my anxiety around girls, and what should i do if i ever actually make out so i dont look like an idiot. any help will be greatly appreciated thanku
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reader, lowercaseq +, writes (29 June 2010):
 alright . this is right up my alley . hey man . I didnt get my first kiss or anything until I was older. keep your head up . there are a ton of women out there who are looking for a man like you. you havent tried because you have whats called respect for women . you didnt mention it, but i know already you do . If you didnt you would be your typical cocky 19 year old not caring what happens . its not all about making out with girls. there is more to life than that. trust me my friend. find some "girl friends" treat them with respect. dont change who you are. act normal around them . be funny act like they are one of the friends. DONT BUCKLE ! dont let them walk all over you . but still treat them good. theyll come around and when the right one comes just be like hey . ive never done this . and im sure shell show you whats up .
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reader, Liza999  +, writes (29 June 2010):
This may sound too simplistic but the key to stop feeling anxiety around women is to stop caring so much. Let go of the outcome. Your only 19 and many women will be coming into your life over the next few years. Don't pressure yourself there is lots of time. Think of the women your around now as practice opportunities :) It may also help to visualise yourself in certain situations coming across friendly and confident. I think many girls would agree a guy can laugh at himself, his inexperience and his nervousness can be super sexy with showing his vulnerability!
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