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writes: my wife left and went to her mothers 3 months ago. no reason was given except something didnt feel right. we had just returned from a lovely 2 week holiday where we made love nearly every day.complete shock.after 3 weeks she returned but was so cold towards me infact i slept in spare room for the 1st few days. eventually we started sleeping together and she was planning for the future, when suddenly she goes again , still no answer as to why. she says she cant fault me but her feelings arent the same but doesnt know why.her mother says she goes to bed early most nights is very quiet and lost a lot of weight. her friends say she wont discuss it. i really dont know what to do for best, she is not interested in seeing councillor or anyone. we are in our mid- thirties and been married 9 yrs. we have no children thru choice. does anyone have an opinion on this. thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (12 December 2006):
 Ok...next question
Does she think your having an affair?
and are you...because it puts another spin there.
Could she have misunderstood some email, phone call etc?
Or could she have intercepted one after returning home?
Not accusing you of anything....just another possibility to toss out there. And NO you don't have to be haveing one for her to convince herself that you are. But do be aware....that wives follow their hubby's from time to time and if you have been up to something....she may have viewed you.
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reader, mic123 +, writes (11 December 2006):
mic123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question ihane mention the baby thing to her snd she says its not that so i have to accept what she says. i did think that myself and i appreciate your comment.
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (11 December 2006):
Nope....there is something going on there that YOU don't know about.
You say you have no children by choice. Now this is just suppose.....but suppose she has suddenly had baby fever hit her. She may have been trying to get preggo without your consent....and has been disappointed. And thus she does not feel the same any longer. I am one of those women who was certain beyond doubt that I WOULD never have children. Now i have two....and there are days when I think how much easier life would be without them.....but I could never go back because it would now seem very meaningless.
The only reason I bring it up as a possibility is because it fits into all your blocks of the puzzle. She won't consider counseling.....because wanting a baby is not a disease. She says something does not feel right.....she's longing for something you guys have probably talked to death against. And your sleeping together....planning for future.....then she goes again.....It could be something to do with pregnancy or lack there of.
She could be ill. She could be having an affair. She could be a lesbian who just realised it......But my guess is she wants to be a mom and has no hope in her heart of bringing it up to you. but that is just my guess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2006): I think it was that ur relationship was based on passion and sex. There was not enough communication of thing between the two of u and there r alot of women out there and there is someone for everyone.
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