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Is it wrong to go out with a guy younger than me?

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Question - (9 December 2006) 28 Answers - (Newest, 11 March 2011)
A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

im a girl and i like a guy who is younger than me, most people say its wrong to go out with guys who are younger than you and im worried what people will say. should i just forget him or is this acceptable?

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A female reader, cutiegirly500 United Kingdom +, writes (11 March 2011):

cutiegirly500 agony auntNo I love a boy that is Like a year or two younger than me, and no i do not regret it one bit, personally i don't think its wrong, i think its sweet :)

Look if you really a boy younger than you, go for it, it dosen't matter what age you are as long as you truly love him and trust him :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011):

im 22 hes 17..is that wrong?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010):

Join the club i like this guy he is 2 years younger than me i followed my heart and he likes me so follow your heart i did and look what happened .

p.s

Its up to you.Take a while and think about it do you like him for his looks or his personality ?????

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010):

i have this same problem but i like two guys one in my grade and one i really like because he sweet nice and reallly hot so if i were id say go 4 it!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010):

I normally don't go for guys who are younger but recently I started seeing this guy who is younger. I thought he was 15 and I'm 16 so it wasn't that bad but after something had happened I found out he was only 14. I was nearly about to stop everything before I realised that two years is such a small amount of time and that I had believed he was mature enough to be 15 or 16 already and it was only what other people would say that was holding me back. After all, if a guy went out with a girl two years younger no one would care so I'm still seeing how it goes for now :) good luck!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010):

i reakcon that its soooo okey to go out with someone younger then you because its not what they want its what you want. i have a boyfriend 4 years younger then me and i love sooo much but family say i can do better then that but i say i dont want to go for better and that im not gonnah break up with him full stop.! so i reakcon its fine to go with him. if you really love him so much..:)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010):

same with me thats how i found this website, and plus my friends say its wrong to go out with a dude younger than me ( there boys by the way )and they also say if you want a boyfriend pick one of us, some one you know.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010):

Hey :)

serously it doesnt really matter but... boys do mature later than us girls,so if u can cope with a guy whos younger than u then GO 4 IT!

My boyfriend is 12 and im 13 and we really love each other 3 its fine but my boyfriend can be stupid at time cause he is not very mature yet lol

So here is my advise BLOODY HOW CARES WHAT PEOPLE THINK GO 4 IT :)

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A female reader, heyhey1 El Salvador +, writes (20 October 2010):

hey, i have the same problem. I live in central america and ppl here find it weird to even hang out with ppl younger than you. I am a swimmer and in the swimming team i have loads of friends from different age groups and it is not that bad.

And it is pretty rare to find couples in which the younger one is the girl and the older one is the boy. it is even worse when the is the one who like the younger boy.

I started liking a boy 2 years younger than me last year when i was 13 1/2 and he was almost 12 but i was in 7th and he was in 5th (here we have an extra grade so the ages are different)and he is my favorite teacher's son so i knew him from swimming. We once in a while would hang out a lot and stuff until one day i just told him i liked him and kissed him out of nowhere, it was awkward later but it got better. Then i kissed him again after he spend some time in canada cuz his dad was having some health problems. It was less awkward after that.

I just want to tell you that it also depends on the trust you have with each other and how long you've known each other as well. Because if u actually do something like that the guy might as well get closer to you and the relationship you have will affect each others' feelings. Now i'm so much closer to him but we are like best guy/girl friend.

So just make him notice you more, and tell your friends seriously and it doesn't matter waht peoplr think as long as you feel happy with him.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010):

I do know what you mean. I don't have a boy friend but I like this guy who likes me a little and he is a year younger than me. I want to kiss him but I don't want to ruin our friend ship. I think it is totaly ok to go out with someone younger than you. If the person is over five years younger than you and you are in you teen years. Then I would say not a good Idea cause he/she might be to childish or very in mature.

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A female reader, LindaWindCharm Australia +, writes (4 January 2010):

i totally understand what you're going through. i asked myself the same question when yesterday i found out that the guy who i've been having a crush on since 6 months ago is actually a year younger than me. when i heard his actual age coming out from his mouth i couldn't take it. I personally not a fan of this kind of relationship.

despite knowing the truth my feelings towards him still remain the same but just a bit all over the place. I don't know if he likes me ......

It really comes down to his personality and yours. if he is okay with it then go ahead. after all why should you be concern of what people think or say when you're the one who is experiencing the journey not them.

Though i have to say that if the guy you like is very immature or has the potential to ditch you shouldn't invest or have high hopes. Unlike girls, guys enjoy change and novelty so if he is younger then you there is a possibility further on years down the track he might get bored and want someone younger!!!!!!

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A female reader, Bubbles101 United Kingdom +, writes (28 April 2009):

Personally I think u should go out with him and who cares what other people think! It is your life!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007):

well i think u should go with him i mean i lyk a guy in 6 grade while im in eighth and friends told me it was wrong but then i just liked him more

so if u really like this person go with them

*hope i helped

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007):

I think you should go out with him just remember his age (for what he's gonna want to/should do). I like a guy younger then me who likes me back and even tho he's 11 almost 12 and I'm 13 1/2, it works. ^.^

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007):

Well... i say who cares!?.. the only thing that matters is that u both are happy!!!... im 27 my boyfriend is 20!!!!.. yea he is way younger than me, at first i didnt know what to do!.. but now.. well my family knows.. my friends know.. even though my guy friends are hating.. but whatever.. he makes me so happy.. sooo if that person makes u happy dont worry about what other people might think.. at first its gonna be kinda hard.. but then.. if he's right for you.. u wont care about the age difference!..

good luck! and smile! be happy!.. there is only one world!.. ok?

Viva el amor!!! lol

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007):

hey there,

if u both feel the same then go for it.!

as for me,...iv jus turned 19 n im dating a grl whos 15 turnin 16... her parents HATE me.. n hav forbidden her from seeing me.. :(... we r in love n its rly hard not being accepted by her family. her mother believes the age gap is the problem..n not the fact that we r both females..

i dunno... she says shes willing to wait for me until she turns 16 so her mother cant get me introuble... it isnt fair.. i understand the age difference.. n id never hurt or pressure my gf into nething.. her mother doesnt see that tho. Maybe the age gap is too much.. but having feelings for sum1 doesnt come with an age limit.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2007):

Arn't you old enough to make up your own mind?

If we all replied "No, it's disgusting, don't do it" would you seriously listen to us?

Your an adult. Time to start making some adult decisions.

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A female reader, rammsteinfan United States +, writes (4 January 2007):

rammsteinfan agony auntThere is nothing wrong with it, and don't listen to the other people! You go girl!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006):

I have been seeing a guy who is 14 years younger than me, he is 32, we are both happy with things, emotionally and sexually we are on the same level, i do not look or act my age, when we first met he thought i was maybe 2 years older than him,

It does not bother either of us, so get on and enjoy one another.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006):

Im going out with a guy 4 years younger than me..Im 24-he's 20... we've only been together a month but we already know we have something special and I believe he is the one.My parents are not speaking to me at the moment as they think he's too young for me, and because he is the same height as me and looks a little younger they believe I should break up with him..but im not pepared to do that. They don't even know him and if they did they would realise that he is way more mature and ready to settle down than my ex was..who was 2 yrs older than me..they've always told me that my happiness is what matters but now im finally happy they won't be supportive. I still live at home with my parents while my boyfriend lives 50 miles away which makes the situation even harder...does anyone have any suggestions on how to fix this situation??? Please help me!

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A female reader, velvet_tears01 +, writes (14 December 2006):

velvet_tears01 agony aunthey hun been there done that there is absolutely nothing wrong with it i was scared of what ppl had to say b4 2 and i thought it was unacceptable i say go for him the guy i went out with was a year a month and a day younger then me lol it was one of the best relationships iv been in and i wouldn't take it back for the world we arn't together any more but that had nothing to do with the age we just went our seprate ways dont let ppl tell u that u cant like him because he is younger its perfectly fine

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A female reader, Choongalicious United Kingdom +, writes (11 December 2006):

Choongalicious agony auntPersonally, I see no problem with it as long as you are happy. Your happiness counts the most, so do whatever suits you. Ignore other people's opinions, some people don't see anything wrong with being 16 and going out with a 23 year old, so why is there an issue if you wanna be with a younger guy. I am in this situation myself and all my friends have been really supportive. Surround yourself with people who understand and are willing to support you and not people who are going to judge and criticise you. Take car and good luck!

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A female reader, bonym United Kingdom +, writes (10 December 2006):

bonym agony auntIt depends on the transition of the ages, i.e. if you are 20 and he was 15, then there would be a serious problem, if you are 30 and he is 25, SO WHAT! If you are 26 and he is 20, again SO WHAT! Providing you are both ADULTS, why should there be an issue.

Its like people saying its wrong for a white girl to date a black guy or an Asian woman to date a white man, as long as you are adults, then the age neednt matter.

xXx

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A female reader, willywombat United Kingdom +, writes (10 December 2006):

willywombat agony auntMy husband is 5 years younger than me.....

Age should not matter, but it actually depends how old you are in the first place. If you are 18 and he is 12, then.....you catch my drift?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2006):

If you are proposing that it is wrong for a women to go out with a younger guy then you would be saying that millions of very happy, successful relationships across the world should end.

Most people do not say this is wrong. I think you mean most of your friends say it is wrong. But how do they know? Are they experts? clearly not.

If you are worried about what other people would say then you are not ready to be in a relationship, or this guy is simply not the right person for you. When you meet the right person, you will want to be with them, regardless of what their age is. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2006):

go with your feelings. it's a matter of perspective. hey my grandfather is younger than my mam and everybody's cool with that despite belonging in a stereotyped culturally picky and strict Chinese culture =)

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A male reader, moomoomoo United States +, writes (10 December 2006):

moomoomoo agony auntLook, I think you didn't really even need to ask this question. You shoudl already know what kind of answers you will get here. lots of "YES OF COURSE!" and "it depends what you think"... never a straight no. And I already know what type of people will say the yes, but I won't say :P

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2006):

[sigh] I'm going to be a bit harsh here, but who the hell are "most people"? Which country of "most people" are you referring to? Are you telling me that in the state of Most People, the Most Peopleians are telling you that it's wrong? I have not heard such a place named "Most People".

First of all, on my side of the galaxy, "most people" actually don't make up "most people". It just basically means that a person whom has talked to some people, thought that those people think it's wrong. "Some People" do not make "Most People".

Well, with sarcasm out of the way, the QUESTION IS - "Do YOU accept him or not?" Why would you be asking strangers, friends, family, or the like for an answer? If we said, "No, he's totally way too old. In fact, you should ONLY GO OUT WITH guys with blond hair, blue eyes, at 6-6, weigh in at 200 pounds of pure muscle, and drives a nice yellow Lambo, and has a horse ranch out in the boonies..." - would you seriously listen to us?

Come on, think for yourself! At LEAST ONCE!

"Forbidden Love"?!?!?! Dating a sheep, having sex with your dog, and trying to make babies with a trout is "Forbidden Love".

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