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writes: My wife refuses to do oral on me and does not like me doing it on her.What can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2005): I have the same problem, We have been together in 10 years but she says penis is not for mouth. But she like to be licked
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2005): are you gonna let her eat your buggers and earwax too....common....you want her to put her mouth on your dick before or after she prays and kisses her mom?stop being selfish
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reader, yakyakfire +, writes (28 November 2005):
God damn! If your wife asked you to let her pee in your mouth would you do it?
No of course not. Forget Power maybe that is the whole problem. Accept that your wife has issues with giving you oral sex and let her know it is not a problem. Make sure your wife understands how much pleasure it would give you to perform it on her. Make sure she is completely relaxed before you try it.
It took me five years of knowing my husband before I let him go down on me and another three before I did it for him.
Give it time and if it doesn't happen you did'nt marry her for her oral abilities, find other ways to enjoy each other and don't be a pratt about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2005): Hi there: I am sorry to hear about your problem but I think if you truely love her you will be willing to dismiss oral sex. You can discuss and reason together about all the whys until you two can arrive to an answer. What a married couple do in their bedroom is mutual but I think it is wrong to force another person to do what one does not want to do. I can understand her feelings because I myself do not like it. Please forgive me if I honestly say, " to me it is abnormal" (Please forgive me I do not mean offense)I simply feel yucky to do this kind because I feel the mouth is only for eating to nourish us physically and not meant for something else. I was very naieve when I was married. My husband suddenly started persuading me to do oral sex. I also suddenly discovered his strange nudes magazines all in action. At first I was able to avoid his asking (which he tells me as icing or ice cream) but through the years he kept pushing me and I did it just to please him but deep inside me I was really suffering. Its just not my choice...until today I still feel like I want to scream!!! And run for my life each time I am reminded how he made me do it for hours and especially while he was driving from one state to another. It made me felt like I was a worthless dog. That's all I did in his car and when he laid himself to bed. Before I use to think when 2 people love each other mutual sex is wonderful and live happily ever after, live in a clean nice happy home with happy children, grow together...expand our minds...equally yoked together..etc...but now I just do not want to be married anymore...I hope you and your wife will be able to get help or solve the problem...All I say here is not meant to be judgemental or hurt anyone...I am just sharing my experience and what I personally feel about certain type of sex...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2005): Not much. You can try to get her to get an education about sex, and see an sex therapist- if she won't go, go yourself, and maybe the therapist can give you some ideas and materials to share with your wife about oral sex, so that your wife will learn that it is both natural, and fun. Your wife also needs to know how much power oral sex gives to her over a man, and, or course, how good oral sex can feel to her. Some people have been trained to believe that feeling good is bad, or evil or sinful. They truly believe they will go to hell if they engage in certain behavior. These people are sexually dysfunctional, and unless they get professional help and change, they are in for a rocky relationship with their spouses. They don't understand why their spouses want them to experience such things, and, until they do, they will never know that answer. If she has a girlfriend you can get to talk to her about oral sex, ask the girlfriend(s) to get involved. Otherwise, you may just have to do without. Tough choice, and most men would rather quit than fight. good luck to you.
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