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My son's father is in jail. My 6 year old is starting to ask questions. What should I tell him?

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Question - (10 October 2017) 2 Answers - (Newest, 11 October 2017)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Aunties and uncles here is my question..

I have a son who is fixing to be 6. His father has been in jail since he was 2. He doesn't get out until 2020. He is in fir a 2nd sex charge. My question is pretty vague I guess.. I'm jist not sure what to do? He can't have visitors under 18. My son doesn't know his father. He doesn't write us. Do I sweep it under the rug or do I explain it to him? He's been throwing comments out, like why don't I have a dad, where is mine, etc. What do I do??

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A male reader, BrownWolf Canada +, writes (11 October 2017):

BrownWolf agony aunt

The hurts, but it never fails.

Also, use this as a learning lesson for your son. As in...Do not follow in your father's footstep.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (11 October 2017):

Honeypie agony auntSit him down next time and tell him, you do have a dad, his name is "insert name" (just tell him the first name) and he left when you were 2. He left to go to jail because he did a bad thing. That his dad left you with the BEST thing in the world - your son! Then REINFORCE how much you love your son and if he asks WHAT his dad did, tell him you don't know the details. Remember a 6-year-old is a curious age but they DO NOT need to nitty-gritty details.

When my husband was deployed to Afghanistan and Iraq my kids were young and I told then their Daddy was working overseas. I didn't tell them WHAT he was doing over there. I think it was enough that I was worried, they didn't need to do that too.

And they were FINE with that explanation since most of their friends and classmates had dads "working overseas".

So what you give him is a VERY "watered" down version of the truth.

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