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writes:Hi, my son lacks self confidence and there isn't many self confidence groups in my local area. Although it started before this (a year before) I think it has come to a head after the passing of his grandad earlier this year. He's 21 and has become so introverted. He also walked out of his job. How can I get him back to the son he was before?Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008): You can't.
Only he can do that. He has to reach deep down inside himself and find a reason to live again.
You can be there, you can help him along. But like a Jesus carrying a Cross to a hill, it has to be done mostly on his own.
Flynn 24
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (10 October 2008):
 lossing a loved one makes you either take stock of what you have. or makes you simply stop caring.
confidence.. has he Always lacked in confidence? or is this a more resent thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): Dear Poster
I have empathy with you and your son; losing somebody close to you is never easy; I hope that both of you are okay and will be able to find Peace and Acceptance; however, if his grandfather was the major male model in his life; sure it will be even more traumatic.
I suggest you get him to counseling a.s.a.p;; there might be other hidden factors that has affected his self confidence too; BUT let us not speculate about who where and what.
I do hope you can get him to counseling; From personal experience with my two sons when dealing with bereavement; Vow, counseling was great and helped them very much.It is not easy for any of us do deal with death; but youngsters find it far more difficult;
PLEASE if you want to help your son; there is no other option BUT counseling.
I am sorry for your pain and loss; and hope that you are okay.
Best wishes and never forget to SMILE.Bless you.
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reader, tayalouise +, writes (10 October 2008):
 Maybe a therapist or counsellor could help your son?
Dealing with a death often brings people to cave in on themselves, especially if they were beforeso.
Talking it through, when he is ready could help a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): One step at a time. A sincere compliment can go a long way...and understanding that his grieving needs to take it's course...having a good male/mentor influence in his life will help also.
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