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writes:I just found out that I am 34 weeks pregnant. I never knew until I took a test because I was having problems with what I thought was gas and constipation and the pain was really bad so I went to a doctor at a walk in clinic and he said to do a test just in case. Well it was positive so they did a full exam and sent me to get an ultrasound and they said I am nearly full term. I am panicking because I do not want a baby. I do not have a boyfriend. The baby is my exes, we broke up months ago and do not get along. I do not want a baby, I never wanted a baby, especially not now, I'm still young and I have my whole life ahead of me and plans that I want to do, and this was not in the plan. I am really upset because I cannot get an abortion because I am so far along and I am also really scared because I have to give birth and I hear it hurts. Luckily my body has not changed much since the pregnancy, I gained about 5 pounds but my tummy does not look very large and I don't have really swollen breasts or stretch marks so that's good. But I am upset and not sure what to do now, can you get someone to adopt your baby this quickly?? I have not yet told my parents or any of my friends, except my BFF who has promised not to tell anyone and she said she would help me figure it out but she has no experience with this. I never asked the doctors about what to do because I was too shocked and they seemed to assume I wanted to keep the baby. They actually said congratulations to me. I was stunned to silence. If I go back will they help me get rid of it? Like adopt it out? Can you do that?? Are there are numbers I can call??? I feel so alone and lost and would like some advice. What do I expect for labour? Will they put me under anesthetic or anything? I would like to be unconscious for it, is that possible? will they make me hold the baby or look at it? How long will it take to give birth? How do I get to the hospital when I have to give birth? I have no idea what to expect.I am living at home with my parents by the way but they both work a lot so I don't see them much, I am very independent. But will they notice if I go into labour?? Should I stay with a friend instead? Please give me advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): yes you can adopt it out this quickly. Go to your dr. He may know someone and he will have a number you can call for help. There are groups that specialize in this and will support you. Look in the phone book for a pregnacy crisis center. You will not have to hold the baby, and can usually have meds that keep the pain at a bearable level.. Good luck and god bless
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