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writes: Can anyone tell me if how I am feeling is wrong?I have been with my partner for about four months and now we live together.I love him very much but recognise I suffer from low self-esteem. Last night, I tried to entice my boyfriend to bed. We do normally have a very good sex life but I don't react at all well to rejection. He knew last night that I was wearing stockings, etc but he preferred to watch a programme on the TV then come to bed with me. He did come to bed but perhaps I was too pushy to expect him to come to bed at the same time as me? He said he wanted some time on his own but it left me feeling rejected and unwanted. When he did come to bed, it caused an argument and then he said that as a result, he certainly didn't feel like making love. If I had kept quiet and not expressed how I felt, everything would have been okay. Maybe I voiced how I felt wrongly but if I didn't say anything, then I would have felt bad also. Can't win. I asked him to touch me but he didn't even want to do that, he said because I had had a go at him, that it had put him off. I got really upset in the end and felt really unwanted. I lost my temper and regrettably tried to hit him which I shouldn't have done. Not to hurt him, I hurt myself more but eventually he said I was sick in the head. What do I do now? This makes me feel unhappy and unfortunately, rejected.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2005): May be you should give him a bit of space. Life is all about adjustment, if you really love him and care about him, you should try to understand him. Try stepping into his shoes. Try getting rid of your low esteem, thats the real culprit. There is no problem in saying NO sometime may be you should try doing the same some day. Now Cheer up
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2005): Hey, I know how it feels. But how he reacted and what he said to you was right. If he really cared about you he wouldn't tell you your sick in the head. He is living off your low self esteem and liking it cause he knows hes in control. You need to stand up for yourself more.
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