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writes: Ive been with my partner now for around a year.Everything has been great but now its starting to niggle me a bit.I have always done my best to prove my love for them infact a lot more than what i have had back in return.But i dont need reassurance as i know they love me.But now we have had a few words basically it boils down to their insecurity.I have done my best to always be there for them and be loving and im even the one that seems to be making plans towards the future.But it seems that isnt enough as they said they feel insecure.I feel i cant do anymore than what i have already and knowing they feel so insecure has put some pressure on me as regards to what i say if it gets took the wrong way.I dont think i can take the burden of them being so insecure and me always having to reassure them.by now things like that should of gone as the relationship moves on.I love them so much but at the same time i resent them for not putting trust in to me as i have always been loving in the relationship.I feel like i need some space from the relationship for a short while because i would think it would do us both some good but i know this would be took in all the wrong way and the insecurity issues will be brought up but i feel i cant carry on with this. thankyou for reading x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): I think you should have a good chat with your partner and let her know exactly how you feel. Lay it all on the table. sometimes the longer we are in a relationship the more insecure we get. I don't know why this happens but it does. Can you not wait until after Christmas and see how things go then and maybe in the New Year suggest having January off. Take yourself off to a relative or friend and don't phone or text and see how you both feel. I think it might send her head a bit crazy but she needs to strengthen her mind. She might welcome the break and see it as a recharging time for you both. If this doesn't work then i think you have to look at the relationship on a longterm basis and ask yourself if it is all you want. I wish you well.
Take care
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