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writes:I'm a senior in high school and recently started dating a classmate Austin. He has a 7 month old son, holds a part time job as a cashier at a local grocery mart, is a straight A student BUT my parents keep telling me that he is a bad guy and I can't date him all because he is a father. His ex broke up with him shortly after she had the baby (Griffen) but they share custody he lives one week with his mom and one week with Austin.Is there any way I can convince them he isn't a bad guy. Unlike some older people I can't move out to date him or anything like that so if they say no I pretty much have to listen since I live with them and can't afford to move out. He didn't plan on getting his ex pregnant so it's not like he wants to have another baby and I'm smart enough to use protection when I'm with him.
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reader, Brookefly +, writes (17 March 2014):
Brookefly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone ,
Aunt Honesty they think that he is Mr Fertile and that I will end up pregnant even though I (and they) have talked about safe sex a million times. They think they he is to "mature" in their words, and that any relationship with him is to serious.
I'm here to help you - thanks for the advice. They have met him three times and of course know of him since we live in a small town. But they refuse to even try to get to know him. Yes, we are sexually active but being 100% safe. . I know I should have waited longer but it just kinda happened. We didn't set out to have sex.
He is a really nice guy and I think if they would just give him a chance they would like him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2014): I think you sound mature enough to make your own mind up
He has a child - so what, he is working and studying, if I was you just tell your parents it's just going out, and assert yourself before they dictate other areas of your life that prevent you from developing into the grown women you need to be. Respect their wishes re times home and rules in the house and be cautious with this man. Out lives our our own .
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 March 2014):
 Your parents are only looking out for you because they love you. They see this young guy who already has a son and they don't want you to end up being a young single mother either, maybe they don't want you to end up being a step mother at your age either. You need to sit down with your parents and talk to them about how you feel and ask them what they are worried about.
You are still in school so you have plenty of time to settle down and be in a relationship at present I would recommend that you just enjoy your life.
I understand that he might not have meant to get his ex pregnant but at the end of the day these things happen when you are in a sexual relationship and no protection is 100% against pregnancy therefore if you are going to have a sexual relationship with this man well then there is always a chance off pregnancy. That is something that you need to think about as well. Sit long and hard and ask yourself what you want from your future. Good luck.
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