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writes:I am a 19 year old guy who's fallen in love with a 30 year old woman who's divorced with a one year old son. My parents have met her once and doesn't agree for me to have a relationship with her. Recently she told me that she loves me back and now we are having a secret relationship, mostly when her son is visiting his dad. I don't like the relationship being secret so how can i get my parents approval?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): You are only 19 and commiting yourself to a woman 11 years older than you with a responsibility of a young child is too much. Making your relationship secret isn't a good idea. If you want to have the relationship approved by your parents why don't you sit down with them. Let them tell you what is bad about the relationship whilst you tell them what's good about the relationship. Also when they met her they were probably thinking 'oh, she's 11 years older than my son with a year old child' instead of thinking about what she's like. Have her meet your parents again and tell them not to judge her like that. But remember, there are other women out there who aren't tied down with a child and are closer to her age so don't feel like she's the only woman out there who will be interested in you.
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reader, iheartmakeup +, writes (3 March 2007):
 You are only young don't try to commit your self to an older woman, there will be other women who are your age and would love to date you.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (3 March 2007):
 I'm guessing your parents are disapproving because she has a son rather than because they don't like her. They want you to be happy and not feel tied down at 19 looking after a single mother with a kid. I think they're doing the wrong thing for all the right reasons but you're 19 now. They can't forbid you from seeing her. I would sit down with them and tell them how important she is to you and that you're going to keep seeing her and would love it if they would make a special effort with her. If you're mature about it theyre more likely to treat you as the adult you want to be treated as.
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