A
female
age
36-40,
*hylight200
writes:So after breaking up with my ex, i created an online profile on plenty of fish because I was lonely and it a stupid thing to do thinking back. I mean, if I was in my right mind, i never would have. But yeah, a lot of the messages I got were from freaks so i stopped signing on. But then I got a message from a guy that seemed pretty normal. We started talking on AIM on a daily basis it feels like. It's been almost a month of IMing. He's asked me out a few times, but I didn't really respond to them cause I wasn't ready. It's my first time meeting someone from online so I'm nervous and he seems to understand that. But anyways, we're going out for drink this Saturday night. I was excited about making the date, but now I'm regretting it and thinking that I should stick to dating people I meet in real life. I mean, I don't even drink. There are so many thoughts running through my head and it's only Tuesday. Have you guys ever met anyone online? What should I expect?Help please
View related questions:
my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): Follow all the advice given by the site as regards safety. Tell someone you trust that you are meeting him, and where. Meet him in the daytime. And if you don't drink, tell him so and suggest somewhere else.
A
male
reader, Kenj  +, writes (22 September 2010):
 Try not to be nervous, you can bet he will be nervous too. As long as your meeting in a public place that’s fine.
Maybe let one of your friends or family know your meeting him or leave a note.
Once you meet and start talking it will be just like a regular first date, you can then make up your own mind if you want to see him again or not.
Think up topics to talk about before you go, you should have a good idea from your communication with him already. Just be yourself and don’t try and put on a front or he wont get to know the real you. Try and relax and enjoy your drink and date.
If it’s any help, I have had 2 relationships from on line dating, one lasted 11 months but didn’t work out due to her problems and the other relationship is still going strong.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): Honestly, online dating has worked better for me than meeting guys in person. I have met more quality guys by far online. I guess it just depends on the person. There are very few occasions where I get freaks responding to my dating site profiles--that maybe because I make sure to throw my rules right out there in my narrative sections.
In person, I have met guys in bars, school, etc. and those guys seem to expect sex more than the ones I have met online. I wouldn't rule out online dating until you've tried it. Of course like any method of first time dating, take all caution: meet in public, and so on. Good luck!
...............................
|
