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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I feel like im supposed to please everyone, and its impossible and its really getting me down.I am in a very happy relationship with my boyfriend, but he wont come to my house or meet my parents or even say hello to them. this would be fine (because it doesnt really bother me) but my mom hates it. she keeps nagging me to bring him in, and lays into me about how weird it is that i dont bring him round, she says hurtful things (she doesnt mean them to be hurtful, its just the way they affect me) such as "all my workmates think your weird" which really anoyed me because wat kind of mother says that to their child!and i hate gossips, and she must have been gossiping to her workmates about me. Ive never met my bf's parents either, but i would have no problem meeting them if they wanted to. they know that i'm their sond girlfriend, but they would rather that he went out with someone of the same religion, however they arent and i dont think they would force us to split up.I dont no what to do!!!!
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reader, daletom  +, writes (14 July 2009):
The "anonymous" female reader has it right!
There's an old adage that says, "If you want to know how a guy will treat his wife - look at how he treats his mother.". And, how he treats YOUR mother isn't far off the mark!
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reader, TheAgonyAunt +, writes (13 July 2009):
 The poor boy is probably just really scared! It feels really intimidating to meet their partners parents for the first time and he will be worrying about what they think of him and if they will like him.I think this would be the only reason I could think of. Try and explain this to your mum, this may well be the reason, especially if your boyfriend is shy.Hope this helps.:)
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reader, ugh101 +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Maybe he is terrified of your parents. I have friends lke that who would rather not have to tlk to them.
Id ask him y he dsnt want to meet her and make him tlk bout it.
Or just tell your mom your not ready to introduce him to her and you will on your own time when you feel its rite.
Your not weird. I think ur moms just being nosy/
Good luckXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): He seems inmature to me. Also if he really loved you for real he'd be very interested in meeting the soul who brought his princess to life. It's natural that your mother wants to meet your boyfriend. You are very young and even if it's not your first it's important for a mother to experience her daughter's steps into adulthood. He is a very important part of oyur life How do you expect your mother not to care? Imagine if you had a daughter Wouldn't you be interested in meeting the guy of her dreams? Of course you would! It's not something that will change thigns a lot for you but I cannot understand why don't you understand it's not something special to introduce somebody as important as your boyfriend to your mother, unless she really is a manipulative/dysfunctional/controlling bitch and you haven't said so.
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reader, Aunt Agony 54321 +, writes (13 July 2009):
Hi i read your letter.
Well maybe you need to have a chat with this boy of yours and ask him why he wont come over. Maybe he is to shy and thinks he wont impress your parents. Talk to your parents aswell. Tell them that its bugging you that they keep on nagging you. But say it in a polite way. Ask your bf if you could meet his parents insted. But make sure thats ok first. From Aunt Agony.
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