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30-35,
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writes:Okay, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we are so in love with each other.I know how he loves me so much and trying to make me happy as he could.He is a mature minded man although we are in same age.He is patience and low profile.He guide me how to be a good girl and I'm so grateful to have him in my life. My father likes his personality and says that he is a mature and reponsible man that are what a girl need. You know, kinds of men nowadays. My friends also support me with him. They say he really loves me so much. The problem is my mother doesn't really like him because of his job, not his personality.Oh yeah, btw he's from middle class family and their family run a bakery business. His shop is the biggest and well known shop in my city. Meanwhile, I'm from upper class family and that makes my mother to feel unhappy and sometimes underestimate him in front of me.She thinks that I can't get use with his life later because running a bakery shop is a difficult thing, it needs a lot of physics power.As I'm not kind of girl that have that strength. I've never told him about this and I feel so upset everytime my mother talks about him like that.However, he ever thinks about our future without I told him and he says he know I will not get use to his job and will not like it.He says he will find another complementary job and will try to do his best to make my life wonderful with him.He asks me to learn my piano lesson well and so I can become a piano teacher and I can take my time to what I like without helping his job.I'm so depressed that my mother keep make me upset by her words. I know she only wants the best for me. But honestly deep in my heart I know what she says are true. I don't really sure that I can help his business if someday I married to him. But I really want to try and make him happy too.Guys, I really need your suggestion. Help me.... Thanks before:)
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reader, Ima FreAk!  +, writes (13 July 2011):
 Hiyaaaa,
Woooow social divide here!
What you could do is follow your heart, your mum might want the best for you definitely 100% wants the best for you, but that doesn't mean she knows what is best for you. She knows but she doesn't know what.
Everyone is different and honestly sometimes you can't think about the future because that causes relationships to tumble down just think of now.
If you really love your boyfriend and he loves you back then there isn't any point trying to be down about what your mother might say because at the end of the day you love him and that is that.
Your mother definitely knows right but sometimes when your truly in love things will work out by itself so talk to your mum and say that you truly love him and that your a big girl now you know how to handle things but you'll take your mum's point in consideration. When you talk to your mum make sure that you make her think for exmaple "Remember what you'r first love was like?" Enlighten her, and get her to understand that it's okay to make mistakes in life, it's part of growing up and experiencing things.
Hope my advice helps!
Good luck!
Lots of love,
Ima FreAk!
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