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writes:my love sudenley decided to stop dating me.when he told me i was in shock.im very scared to lose him.i love him,and i know he still loves me. how do i get him back? how do i make him realize that he needs me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2007): Look, you are still very young, and you need to treat this sad breakup as a learning experience - which is - as the two other aunts have told you:
NO boy or girl, breaks up with someone they love very much.
You are telling yourself what you WANT to believe in saying that "I know he still loves me." Obviously, he does not. Because you are strongly attached to him, its natural to be afraid of losing him. The GOOD news is you have ALREADY lost him, so - what is there to be scared of, now that the worst has happened?
Hey, you are still here; you're still you. Maybe not very happy right now, but the world hasn't come to an end - hard as that might be to believe!
There must be lots of other nice boys around who would love to date you. But don't rush into anything new just yet!
As the others have said, you can't get him back, so no point in even trying. He has made his decision, and, like it or not, you have to accept it. BUT, its not your fault! Probably NOTHING you did or said, or did not do or say. Its just a fact of life that a lot of relationships don't work out.
And that's why you don't let yourself fall for the first - or second, third or even fourth one that comes your way. It takes time to discover who you're compatible with, and who not.
And, as you get older, you'll find your ideas and tastes will change. A man that appeals to you right now, may be someone who, six months, or a year from now, you'll look back and wonder what you ever saw in him.
Courage, girl! Dry your tears and plan something fun for the weekend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): You may be scared of losing him, but you should already be over the fear because I hate to break it to you but you already have lost him. You can't really change somebody's mind when they decide that they don't want to be with you anymore. But just remember that this is not your fault. And the pain is hard. But you have to ACCEPT that it is over. I am having a hard time with my bf too, if it makes you feel any better. At some point we all go through this. Rejection SUCKS. What is most important right now is NOT getting him back but letting go and moving on. Be strong. I'm sorry you are going through this. But if you start calling him and insisting to give you another chance, not only are you going to turn him off even more, but you are going to lose your self respect. So basically, you are going to feel even WORSE than you already feel. Just call a friend and ask her to be with you. Cry for a while. Be alone. Think. Do things that will make you heal yourself from the pain. It will get better. But be strong and let him be. It's not worth it anymore. And heal yourself. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): if he broke up with you, it means he wanted to,,why do u think he still loves you. Its hard to hear, but guys just don't break up with people they love for "no reason" The only problem i see,, is the guy wasn't clear enough WHY he broke up with you. Maybe you should ask him.You can't force someone to be with you, against there will.
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