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writes:hey peoples,i need advice! i am with mi boyfriend and i love him so much he is everything i have ever hoped for and he loves mi so much! i don't ever want to loose him. Even though we love each other so much, my parents are in the way. they have made our relation ship harder that it should be. They hate him and they'll insult him and treat him bad. we are long distance relationship but we have mange to make it work this whole time but now we want to live together and just be us to and be happy but since i am under age and he is not my parents are using that as to not letting mi go with him! i have talked to my mom and she says that as soon as i turn 17 i could leave and not have to wait until i am 18 but she then changes her mind and keeps going back and fort. I feel so stressed out and we but mostly me don't want to wait. i know want and what i want is to be with him. but the only problem is i don't know how to talk to my parents so they could understand. i know probably everyone reading this will probably say i should wait and i am to young i dont know, but i have thought it and i can't wait and we want to be together. All i am asking for is any advise in how i could talk to my parents.How could i make them see he is a good guy and that they should let me go?To make them see i could make it on my own and i won't come back!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): honeyim a similar age to youi was in a long distance relationshipand we sorted out me moving up nearer him and me and him gettin a place together.i loved him so so so much, just like you.i quit my job and put my flat up for rent and the weekend i was supposed to be going to live there he split up with me. out of the blue after all this time.my life was in pieces. please listen to this advice. dont give up everything for him. i hate to say it but your parents may have a point.please wait a little longer. look at what happened to me? i never thought he could do anything like this to me. good luck xxx
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 February 2008):
 One of the reasons why there's this concept of "under-age" and "of age" is because reasoning doesn't fully develop until you're a bit older. Your parents are responsible for your well-being until you're old enough to look after yourself. You sound like you're still a bit of an adolescent, focusing on how you're feeling rather than pracctical issues.
It's very romantic and wonderful to be in love and you just can't think of anything but him. You have all these delicious feelings and feel like you're soaring when you're with him. That's the magic of it.
The cold hard truth, though, is that these lovely feelings don't put food on the table, pay the bills, or buy furniture, clothes and medical care.
How will you support yourself? Do you have your H.S. degree? Do you have any job skills? What do you want to do for a career? How much money can you make? Do you have a chance of going to college?
I hate to be so blunt, but what happens to you if suddenly he's not there? What plans have you made?
Answer these questions first, then you can present the plan to your parents in a reasonable way. Maybe this will impress them with how 'grown-up' you've become.
Best of luck, and don't do anything that will damage your health, your education, or your future!
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reader, sonicchick  +, writes (8 February 2008):
Have your parents met your boyfriend yet?The best way to get over parents anxiety is for them to know who your boyfriend is and for them to get to know him.They are obviously worried about you getting hurt, which is the only reason why they are reacting the way they are!I know you want to be with him now and you both love each other so much and if this is true love, it will be there in 6 months...a years time...forever. As they say "the best things come to those to wait".I know it is hard to put love on hold but sometimes it is the best thing you could ever do... I am not saying whether you should stay or go but I thought I would just give you something to think about!
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