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writes:Dear Cupid,I'm in a long distance relationship for 7 months now with my boyfriend. He lives a world apart from me. I know how we've dealed lots of problems since we couldn't meet in person in regular basis. We first met online and we fell for each other instantly and start this relationship. He was a really nice guy at first, we love talking on the phone for hours and I know he loves me for who I am. He even plan to move to the country where I live at to start a new life with me. But then few months ago he changed his mind and asked me to come be with him instead. I'm deeply in love with this guy and I'm willing to move to the States where he lives, but my parents said they couldn't let me do that. I didn't know what to do to convince my parents. And foremost, I know I hurt my boyfriend. He even told me that he'll get all the things I'll need such the airplane ticket and place to live. Since he knew that my parents wouln't let me move to the states, he became so broken and even we argued a lot ever since that. He started to sweat over small stuffs that I'm not going to come and be with him, that he got mad easily.. I love this guy dearly and I know he loves me so much. What should I do? I'm 24 now, I know I should make up my mind, not to depend on my parents. But I live in a country where customs and cultures take every aspect of our life. Any advice and suggestion will be appreciated as I'm really confused now.Thank you very much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): you are an adult, but, you are not an adult if you are 24 and still have to listen to your parents. I am guessing you are from a middle class background and have been to college. The trouble is with some American families is that the parents do not want their kids to grow up. I am from the UK, I am independent i have a long distance relationship with an American, she is 23 and has your problem, I am 18 and i don't. I now live with her in America with her parents and we are leaving for the UK in December. No offense, but who gives a *&^% what your parents think. If you really really really love him then it wouldn't matter what anyone or anything did to you. You would have gone about 4 months ago if you realized this. Grow up and start making decisions in your life the only person holding yourself back is you.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (11 July 2010):
 LDR are one of those things were people see it as black and white but their is a whole lot of grey areas. ok so you havent met and already delt with alot of problems well thats not good also your wanting to move never have meeting this guy bad idea. love can be so foolish and this is were you have to be careful i was in a ldr for 3 years and the more time we spent the worse our relationship got.. just because your compatible on the internet means absolutely nothing whenr your together..i understand why your family dont want you too move! perhaps if you courted for 1 year or 2 and meet up on a yearly basis perhaps your family would allow it. how can he love you completely without knowing all of you. internet dating or ldr can be very decieving.. so all i can say is do what you want but be very careful LDR AND INTERNET DATING do come with warnings all the best aphex
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