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writes:Hello everyone, I have a question about daycare. My husband and I have a son who will be two in September. My husband works overnight and I work through the day. During the day my son stays at home with him while he sleeps off and on. I have been wanting my son in daycare being the fact we have no family around. I would like him to be able to learn and interact with other children. However my husband says its a bad idea because they abuse children in daycare centers, everyone he talks to at work says its a bad idea. So any advice please?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 August 2014):
 You need to accept tbe risk ( hopefully very very low I imagine ) of abuse at day care , because as of now the current arrangement is much more dangerous for the child. In fact, I hate being hard on a mom that is doing the best she can ( or, what she thinks is best ) but what you and your husband are doing is totally irresponsible and I think it could be defined reckless endangerment. Who's ever heard of "watching " a child while you are sleeping. Watching means watchng- with open eyes. A child that age can put himself into any kind of scrapes and troubles even when you watch him like a hawk, imagine when you just snooze it off.
It can't go on lke that- resign yourself, and entrust your child to the best , most reputable day care you can find.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (5 August 2014):
 I wholeheartedly agree with you. Your husband is unfit to watch a toddler if he is sleeping on and off, and he also needs to have sleep like someone who sleeps at night does. If his sleep is broken up by a toddler constantly like it is with a newborn, his work suffers, the childcare suffers, his health suffers.
Reputable licensed Day cares who perform extensive background checks on kids do not have rampant abuse. Neglect of a child is just as abusive, to be honest. You cannot sleep while watching a toddler who isn't sleeping at night like that. What is he going to do, tie the kid up while he sleeps??
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2014): It was on the news just a few days ago, that a father was asleep on the couch; when his toddler got seriously burned.
His wife was at work.
He is going to be charged with negligence and endangerment. The child was removed by child-protection authorities. Even if the child is kept in a play-pen, or closed play area. You still have to monitor what they're doing. They need eyes on them.
Children under six should be watched at all times. You can't turn your back on what they're doing. They get into things. There was a four year-old that walked out of his house at two in the morning. Parents were fast asleep!
They'll get away from you! Daycare is while you work, and can't be with them during the day. You get fired for sleeping on the job!
I'm with you. Your child should be in daycare, and it would benefit the child. Hubby would get proper rest. There are reputable daycare centers, and his excuse is full of holes. He doesn't want to spend the money, or he feels it's his quality-time being with the child. Understood, but too risky. Not when you're fast asleep most of that time!
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