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writes:HiI just wanted to ask.The other night my husband and I was in bed and things were heating up ,and the next moment he yelled "hit me in the b*lls, do it now, quick"! I burst out laughing and that was not the right thing to do. Oops. But it came out of nowhere, and really, it was the last thing I expected him to say!Anyway, he was upset.The next night after the kids were in bed, I brought it up in a more sensitive way.He admitted he has always fantasized about the abovementioned happening. And that he like the idea of pain. I said ok, i can try as he obviously wants this.But when push came to shove, i couldnt do it as hard as he wanted... It just felt wrong to hurt someone you love. It did.I would never hurt him or the kids or family, Or for that matter, a stranger on the street on purpose! Now he wants it!!I have also seen some photos he got off the internet of women hitting each other between the legs or kicking each other with high heels in the private parts. It makes me feel queesy to associate intimacy with pain (although i know their are people who like this).I have suggested that maybe he could do it himself while i am there. But he doesnt like that idea. HE wants me to do it. But "if i dont want to he is ok with it...", but he looks very disappointed.What to do? How would you guys handle it?Thanks
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reader, rproctor  +, writes (15 August 2008):
How can this be illegal? Its both consenting parties, and as long as it stays between them, what is the risk? I doubt she would kick her hubby in the balls and then he runs to the authorities to tattle on her...? Right? Or maybe she kick him so hard they burst and he goes to the hospital, they find out, and then get her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): PPS: Sorry it's me again. If it's illegal in SA, this might be the excuse you need to refuse to do this to your husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): You Present as aged 36-40, married and currently living in South Africa. I have been reminded that your local laws may be different from those in the UK. Please make sure that it is normal in your society, and legal in your laws to introduce pain as a part of sexual pleasure. It would be unfair if you end up in jail, whilst your attempting to be a good wife.. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): LOL... teehee.. I can see your problem... sorry, it's not fair on your husband for me to laugh... lol.. (Diovan dries eyes)
OK, well he needs a little extra spice and you hate to cause pain. I'm the same, but lucky for me, no one ever asked me to hurt. Your husband isn't perfect, he must have done something to upset you. How about your next door neighbour, that ugly old bat. That girl you hated a school. Guys think of things to slow lovemaking down, well now you got to think of something to make you angry and cause him pain. Remember, your doing something loving, but think of something that helps you let the agression out. How about you hurt him for putting you in this riddiculous position and forcing you to do something that's unnatural for you. Cause him pain to please him, just think of something that makes you angry and you should do fine... Come to think of it, you might get addicted to this new thing yourself. Stop being a good girl, surely there is somebody who made you angry today... :)
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