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writes:I' ve been married for 10 years, have know, him for 16 years. We were separated for 3 years, well recently my husband said he might have another child, he had said this before while we were arguing for years, but when I tried to talk about it he would say he was lying but now he said yes and girl told him years ago. when I ask him for a name he says he don't remember. Why is he doing this to us now? What should I do? Is there a way for me to find out on my own? Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 November 2010):
 Well the operative word here is "might"..he isn't even sure if he has a child by another woman or not..plus he can't even remember a name?
Now if it happened during your separation, then I would be pretty upset. However was this a legal separation? Were you allowed to date others? He's semi telling you now, because he feels guilty and needs to get it off his chest. Even if he does, you think the mother would have come forward and claim child support. But I'm going to go with it's probably the previous woman trying to keep your husband is all. So really without a name, you have no where to start. I would possibly consult marriage counseling seeing as you have some issues already due to your separation. Perhaps he will reveal what happened in an open discussion, but more importantly to fix your marriage.
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (2 November 2010):
 Yes. There is a way for you to find out on your your own it's called " PATIENCE" it will come in your mail in the form of certified mail call "CHILD SUPPORT" And in that the in envelope will be a letter telling the both of you (Because your his WIFE)when the date for testing will be scheduled. Tell him not to ignore it. After 2 ignored times times the State will ASSUME he does not deny the FACT the child is HIS and go with the "CHILD SUPPORT" Order. If the woman does NOT know his address or He BUT knows his place of EMPLOYMENT be PATIENCE still, because his CARELESSNESS will cause a drop in the household's income because the STATE will garnishee his PAYCHECK FOR NON PAY OF CHILD SUPPORT. As to why he keep bring it up and playing around with you, That's because the WOMAN keep threatening HIM with CHILD SUPPORT and with THREATS of telling YOU! And HE Calms her down with what he did to give her that BABY In the first place!!!And the last it for a while... Until he BRING IT BACK UP! ~No Watered Advice Here!
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