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writes:Plz advice me .Iam married female with one kid and understanding husband.Before marriage I had bf...He was good, never crossed limits and good to me for 2 yrs.when I was talking abt marriage he said he is not in situation of getting married now. I was very upset about his behavior. This is 10 yrs back story. After I said yes to another guy...he said sorry n wanted to marry me...but I was upset n said NO. Can’t give u any chance.Now again I started talking to him..,we met also 2,3 times he is good to me never crossed his limits ..But somehow I feel guilty .I was the one who called him after 6 yrs …n he spoke to me really good. But he was not married also...By the time I called him. A year back he got married still he talks good to me...But somehow sometimes I feel neglected……actually me n my hubby are very happy couple no doubt about it but our sexual life is horrible.I feel very guilty and in confusion to handle the situation...I feel happy to talk to him but at the same time I feel I am making a mistake. Seriously I want to stop talking to him and not worry about it...I tried but if he calls me I can’t stop talking to him. I know he is good to me and we have feelings for each other but at the same time we both are married and happy with our respective spouse. And our feelings now are of no use.I know we both made mistake 10 yrs ago with misunderstandings. Now no use of talking and letting time pass and cheating on our spouses...plz help me...i know its mind game plz help me to come out of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): This isn't going to play out like a Bollywood movie, it's going to play out like real life. You have real responsibilities to your marriage and to your child. Watch Fanaa and cry over that couple, it helped me when I was going through similar pains and got the issue out of my head and replaced it with Mere Haath Mein. We all need a fictionalised world to escape at times, its understandable but must be put under control if we are to be happy.
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reader, nononsense  +, writes (16 February 2011):
Its easy. Don't waste your time with this guy. You are happy with your "great" husband. Sex is horrible you say? Marriage is mostly give and take and sex is a very small percentage of it. Get him a sex book. Put on a porno. do something crazy to spice it up, but forget the past, it will not be as good as you think it was with this guy and unfortunately, the only way to find out is to do something stupid. I wish you the best of luck. You know what you need to do. I know you will do the right thing.
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