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*homas winter
writes:my husband has left me for another woman and i am devastated, i can not cope, he was my whole world and my world has collapsed, just need to know how to get myself strong again. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): I am so sorry for you. I had to face my husband having a 'text affair' and that was bad enough although we are still together. It will haunt me for the rest of my life and I sometimes wonder if I should have finished it as soon as I found out and moved on, trouble is we love each other. It's easy for others to say but when you 'get over' this, which you will, you will probably see that if it was going to happen, it happened young enough for you to 'start again' and turned out for the best. I wish you lots of luck and I hope those two get a taste of their own medicine one day xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): You can do it! One Day At A Time!
Hugs!!!!!!
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reader, thomas winter +, writes (28 March 2009):
thomas winter is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice, it is still only a couple of days and is very hard, i really want to feel that i nor love him or hate him, that is my goal for now, one day at a time. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): Gina's advice is excellent! And I too am very sorry this is happening to you. Aside from doing all the positive things Gina has mentioned, Try to reinvent yourself. Do things that make you feel good about yourself! Get your hair cut, restyled, buy some new clothes, redecorate your home to make it YOURS! Take down any pictures of him if you haven't done so already...you don't need reminders!
Above all, Let yourself grieve! Your devastation will turn to anger, and eventually you will get to the point of indifference towards him. That is your goal...to get to where you don't love him nor do you hate him! When you reach that point, you will be able to move on! There are some good books about grieving. It would be a good investment for you to buy one. Look for one that list the stages of grieving. It will help you know you are right where you are supposed to be!
I wish you luck and future happiness!
Britt
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