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*essasbeautie
writes:Please help!! My husband and I went to the Island for Spring Break 2009. We all got relevantly drunk but apparently my husband surpassed his limits. My best friend told me at the end of the night that my husband had groped her ass and tits while we were out and about. Stating she was trying to find a way to tell me and since he had fallen asleep she decided that was the moment. Needless to say my husband woke up to me beating his ass but now that the fire has settled a bit 3 days later, I am here hurt and don't know what to make of this! Is his behavior excuseable or should I walk out on the moron! Nothing of this sort has eve happened before and is absolutely the opposite of how my husband has ever acted in the past 4 years of marriage!
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reader, nessasbeautie +, writes (24 March 2009):
nessasbeautie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAfter reading all of your responses to my situation it is quiet obvious that this type of things are capable of happening when one is plastered. Therefore I talked to my husband and explained that I am still very hurt and betrayed and that he must control his drinking or not drink at all. I do not justify being drunk as an excuse but am willing to somehow work this out with the exception that it never happens again. My husband is truly ashamed and also sad that he hurt me and disrespected my friend. We will work things out but I know this is something that will ponder in my mind always and make me uneasy when he is drinking. Thanks to all of you for your help it means more than you all can imagine....I truly hope I never see this side of my loving husband again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): You should talk to him about his behavior. Definitely have him apologize to your best friend. I have made mistakes before with excessive drinking, but I don't anymore. Talk about limits with him. People do make mistakes. It sounds like this was one. Talk with him. He may be deserving of a second chance.
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reader, InterCntlCHmp  +, writes (23 March 2009):
He was probably just hammered and thought he could get into the threesome or something. I say relax. While it's not acceptable behavior I don't think it's worth ending a marriage over. At least you know he's not gay :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): Yeah that's sleazy behaviour, having a guy touch up a unwilling girl. He apoligized, and you say he's never been like that before so if your friend forgiven him, maybe you should try letting that one go but don't forget.
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reader, damluvaam + ♥, writes (23 March 2009):
 Nah...I don't think ugly...ugly when he's drunk, maybe. I know you're pissed but I kind of feel bad for him... I bet he's just beside himself with embarrassment - AND HE SHOULD BE! I get that!
He really should apologize to everyone - nobody made him drink that much and act that way...
Denny
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reader, nessasbeautie +, writes (23 March 2009):
nessasbeautie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNot only did he wake up to me beating him the next morning had no recollection of the event or why he had a black eye. I explained everything to him and he did begin to cry apologizing to both my BF and I but inside I still feel really hurt that with in him there is this ugly person!
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reader, damluvaam + ♥, writes (23 March 2009):
Well, he evidently had WAAAY too much to drink. That's for sure. I think if he woke up to the shock of you beating his ass, he's pretty much got the idea how you feel about this whole thing.
I realize it's disgusting behavior and I can see it made your friend very uncomfortable..I bet he feels like a real jerk! I bet he's really embarrassed - especially if he's never done anything like that before. He really should not only apologize to you but to her..
We all know alcohol can loosen our inhabitions and make us do really dumb things...I think, given his past, this may be all there was to this.
Good luck
Denny
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