A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My new girlfriend makes a lot of noise during sex, she moans during and almost screams when she cums, i should be happy that i'm making her satisfied in bed but it's really embarassing and i'm worried the neighbours will hear us. My ex gf was very quiet in bed but we both still had an awesome sex life. It's putting me off sex a little bit as my mind is focused on the noise level and not on enjoying myself.We stayed in a hotel last week and received a complaint about the noise, my gf said it was probably having the tv on too loud! yeah right! lil help thanx x
View related questions:
ex girlfriend, my ex, neighbour, sex life Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): either you are really good or she is faking it.
A
male
reader, daletom  +, writes (7 May 2009):
This is a tough situation!
Most guys really appreciate a vocal partner and the majority (not all) girls are at least a little vocal on many occasions. (For that matter, girls like vocal guys, too, but VERY FEW guys give them that satisfaction!) But girls get self-conscious and embarrassed if you point it out. My wife is almost always audible, and moderately vocal from time to time - but not what you would call a "screamer". A few months after we got married and started having sex I told her how much I appreciated that, and what a turn-on it was to hear her. The reaction? She clammed-up and it was YEARS before I heard another peep out of her.
Your case is difficult because it's not just a private matter between the two of you, but affects others. You can't rush off to the middle of nowhere, or lock yourselves into a soundproof vault every time you want to make love. I suspect it's best if she hears from you that the volume is too loud but be careful how you approach the subject. It might be better (or might not - I don't know her!) to discuss it in the daylight, in a confidential setting, rather than during foreplay or afterglow. One somewhat kinky solution might be to ask if it's OK to cover her mouth when she gets too loud - if you mention the phrase "scream-into-the-pillow-orgasm" to a group of guys, you might be surprised how many of them know EXACTLY what you are talking about!
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): My wife is like this. Rent a cabin, and plan get-aways accordingly. I wouldn't make her screaming an issue: maybe laugh about it after its overwith. A plus is that I never have to worry about bears sneaking up on the cabin!
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): she probably likes the sound of her own voice and this is how she is turned on. I agree, how embarassing! Just tell her you find the loudness a bit too much and exagerated, it's probably not you at all, it's just how she gets off.
...............................
A
female
reader, kellyxxx +, writes (5 May 2009):
 Talk to her, but don't bring up your ex girlfriend,lol. X
...............................
|
