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writes:Hey guys, I have been going out with my girl friend for about three years now and lately she has been having this urge to have sex with another guy and then another girl (threesome). I am not comfortable with this at all due to various reasons which can/will arise after the act but mainly due to moral reasons and how I will never be able to look at her the same way again. However, she is very pushy about this and claims it means a lot to her. Can someone please advice on possible actions or am I really being too harsh?Thanks a lot
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): Your not being harsh. everyone has values and morals set for themselves and your girlfriend should respect them. She shouldn't push you into something that you feel strongly against. try telling her how you feel and ask her if she will respect your wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): If she is asking for a threesome and wanting to have sex with other guys, then she's not really looking at you as long term relationship material. She is young and wants to experiment. Nothing wrong with that.
However, that being said, there are a lot of guys who would give an arm and a leg to have a threesome. I would really go for it. Have fun, enjoy the experience, and then be prepared to move on.
Trust me, after you settle down with "The One" and the sex has gotten stale and monotonous, you'll be able to look back on this experience bask in the memories.
You are so young, forget your morals and enjoy the moment. Just be safe and don't catch any STD's or get anyone pregnant. You are young, this is the time to have fun. Soon you'll have a family and won't have the opportunity to do things like this.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 October 2010):
You shouldn't feel pressured into it. And the fact that she's pressuring you into it is a bit worrying. Does she have a specific male in mind?Because this sounds like she's trying to get an excuse to cheat on your to be honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): This brod sounds selfish and inconsiderate. Get rid of her pal before something bad happens.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 I am with strontiumdog on this one, if she has a particular man in mind she probably wants to have sex with him, and throwing in the threesome with a girl afterwards is just a sop to stop you complaining.
I am afraid I am just a tired old cynic ... and I suspect she is just wanting your permission to have sex elsewhere, afterall, how could you complain if you were there while it happened?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): Hi, agree to the threesome but insist that you have one with another female first, after you have it dump her as she obviously has no respect for your wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): im not sure if this girl really loves you , i mean i dont get how she could ask for a threesome if she already has you and wanna be with u , maybe shes just not into you anymore , i understand your morals, i feel the same way though , i would never accept that my gf sleeps with some1 else , i would even finish with her if she just tells me that she wants to , coz its completly insane and believe me , u wont look at her the same way anymore , i bet u already feel that way now
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