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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend wanted a break from me 2 months ago, and i have found out that she doesn't really want to get back with me, this is because i was to clingy and controlling.I love her so much and she says she still has feelings for me...but wants to be on her own at the minute. We are staying in touch by text, i have asked to take it slow but she says she doesn't really want to.How can i get back with her.Many thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Hey buddy....
I went through the exact same thing and i am the same age so dont worry..time will make it better. You will move on.
You cant force a relationship.
Whats been helping me lately is learning about attachment froma buddhist perspective...being attached to anything will only cause distress in your life.
AAnother thing to keep in mind is self love...unless you love and respect yourself 100% you will be attached to her. Learn to value yourself, after all if she doesnt want to have a relationship of any kind with you, i mean really its her loss in a way...your prob a great person!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): You can never make someone want to be with you or even love you. You just have to take what she says and if she doesnt want to get back together, then make it a clean break, stop texting and move on. You are just prolonging the agony and stopping any new and potential relationships starting for the two of you with other people. Move on.
take care
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reader, Devilish Angel  +, writes (29 March 2008):
 Stop being clingy. You're being clingy right now. Stop it. If she says she cares about you and then doesn't want to get back with you, then that means she cares for you as a friend and doesn't want to get back with you. Period. She's over you and you need to realize that. Move on with you life. I understand you care about her a great deal but that doesn't mean you can stay with her.
Stop being clingy. Learn to trust a female and try to find love again.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (29 March 2008):
 Hi
You cant! If she doesn't want to, thats her choice. Just because you want something, it doesn't mean you automatically get it. Where is her opinion allowed in this?
Atleast she has been honest with you, and it sucks cuz its not how you wanted it to be, but it would be far worse if she got back with you, for your sake, but deep down didn't really want to.
All you can do is stay mates, if she wants that, and accept this is the way it is for now, and who knows in the future.
C xxxxx
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