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36-40,
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writes:My girlfriend suggested not getting each other christmas presents this year. I was quite hurt.She's not into the whole buying gifts cos TV says so, she hates valentines day. Birthdays are her thing, and thats fine with me.But we did xmas fine last year and i never knew she had a problem with it.Im a bit hurt because im usually so understanding - i always try and keep things from getting too serious or deep and meaningful, we're not into that.We've been going out for over a year and a half, we're 20 years old, and both at universities, 300 miles apart from each other. We've lasted this long so cheating is never an issue.But now she tells me shes going to spend new years with her uni friends, instead of with me.I just feel a bit unaprechiated, considering i do SO much for her - im feeling i dont get much in return.It gets me down now and again, i dont understand why she cant do things for me instead of being so stubborn.Is she going off me? If we start talking about feelings its gonna kill what we have. We know how we feel about each other and thats good enough.Ok maybe ive answered my own question there! ;0Any advice??
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): Kiss her good-bye. If she doesn't want a gift FROM you it means she doesn't want to buy one FOR you. There are several reasons for this attitude on her part, from little money available, to "I think we should see other people for a while."
Start looking around to see why she feels the way she does, and then look for a new girlfriend.
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reader, rockelle  +, writes (14 December 2007):
 I think it would be a good idea to start discussing feelings, for her to spend the holidays with her firends at school instead of you is not a good sign. The Christmas present thing I can understand, but the staying with friends for the holidays sounds like she has forgotten about you a little. Were you invited? How often do you see her? I think you should talk to her and tell her how you feel, and see how she responds.
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