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My girlfriend says my penis hurts her during sex. Can you help?

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Question - (20 February 2006) 10 Answers - (Newest, 6 July 2007)
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My girlfriend has trouble with my penis hurting her vagina during intercourse. she says it feels like its pulling the skin. can you help?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007):

Maybe you are being too rough with her?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2006):

lubracation

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2006):

get ur penis wet before sexy and then it dont hurt cos its easyer

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A male reader, Andy J +, writes (21 February 2006):

Andy J agony auntI had this same problem a couple of times with mine mate (not being big headed but she said i was to big), so i learnt the best thing to do is go down on her (give her oral sex) for at least 10-15minutes, thats probably the best way to get her wet. Once you've done that she'll be flying with the fairys (well mine was).

Then slowly work your way back up her body to her neck, then you should just find that it'll just happen and naturally go in with out you 2 even having to think about it!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2006):

VAGINISMUS is when the PC muscles tense from penetration. IT is a psychological thing, no physical cure. However, 98% of all women with vaginismus overcome it through counselling with their partners. And those who don't, haven't had the opportunity to have a relationship where they felt comfortable enough talking about it. But most women who have it, don't even know they have it. I did. Took me 6 months to finally have sex with my boyfriend. Try all the toys first- KY lube, extralubricated condoms, vibrators, ask if she feels this way with a tampon, go to the doctor. It could be anything. And if it's medical it's easier to solve. Just don't pressure her into having sex. IF she is pain, you need to be patient. And if this is her first time having sex on a regular basis, she may just not be used to the sensation. Have Fun! Be safe!!

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A female reader, Sexybum United Kingdom +, writes (21 February 2006):

Sexybum agony auntYou need to give her more foreplay, may sound weird but you literally need to wet her up a bit more, turn her on more. If she is 'dry' when you two are trying to have sex it will hurt and will feel incredibly uncomfortable! I don't know how to phrase this without sounding too graphic! You give her more foreplay, she gets more sexually turned on, her vagina will be wetter and sex will be better!!!!

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A female reader, smeedle United Kingdom +, writes (21 February 2006):

smeedle agony auntShe may bit be fully excited or may have something called vaginitus, this is when the woman involantarily tenses her vagina and penetration hurts,

This can be caused by not having enough foreplay so she is not wet enough or it could be because she is anxiouse about something, there are lots of reasons.

Or it may just be that you need to try another possition or use more lubricant, longer forplay.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2006):

get her wetter or buy some lubrication!!

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A female reader, Jadzia1127 United States +, writes (21 February 2006):

Jadzia1127 agony auntA Man's penis comes in all shapes and sizes and so does the internal workings of a woman's vagina. The only way to compensate for an ill fit is to be patient as you try other postions until you find one that is comfortable for both people. The most important thing will be keeping the communication open and honest.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2006):

Maybe you can penetrate her without going all the way in? Is it too thick? Hmmm... That really sucks. You should go ask your doctor for options in regards to this.

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