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writes:I just want to know what marriage means. I dont want to rush it but i also know this women is someone i can trust. Maybe how long do i wait or when i know its right to propose? Even if we don't get married we mutually benefit each other. Not sex just other issues in life we deal with. Guess she's my Best Friend, but i also don't want to lose her.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 January 2010):
Marriage is a lot harder than just being in a relationship.
When you have been together a few years you have to WORK to keep the romance and the sex and the fun times going.
I got married at a church where they MADE you go for marriage preparation classes. I thought they were all going to be about how God could get you through anything and I'm not all that religious... but they were actually really practical help.
They gave us a big list of things that you need to get sorted out before you get married. How does she feel about kids, pets, who does the washing up, who gives up their career if the other one has to move house?
Talk to her about the future and tell her you think she may be the one. You are still very young and we all think this about our first love, so don't dash into a big proposal and terrify the girl.
The biggest way to make sure a marriage works is communication. The fact you can talk to the other person and tell them calmly that they are pissing you off / fat / spending too much time with their hobby / texting another person. AND be able to react calmly when your other half talks to you, not just get defensive and flop off to sulk.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (15 January 2010):
 Talk to her about the general idea about marriage so she know's it on your mind. There is no time line for this kind of thing, its all based on feelings. Remember that a wedding can be quite expensive so maybe the issue of getting married is with money, but if you two are in love and you propose I hope she says yes because as long as you two love each other you'll make it work.
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reader, pril +, writes (15 January 2010):
It sounds like u already no. How long have u to been together. My husband told me he knew the day we first meet I was the one he was going to marry. So if u think it is right then just ask her.
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reader, thickness +, writes (15 January 2010):
 Thats so cute.:-) there's no time frame of when u know its a rite time. If she's the rite girl, ur heart jus knows. U wouldnt have to question any part of ur relationship at all. She's the one. If she's ur best friend, thats even better. Keep me updated. Id like to know what happens between u two. Good luck.
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