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writes:yesterday my girlfriend said she cant stand living with me any longer she is wanting to move out and have a year to be "crazy" and think about what she wants (whatever that means)So basically it sounds to me like its going to be over.... However since she has said that to me she has been so amazingly affectionate and caring and loving (like she was when we first met) so whats going on? Im not going to force her to move out and she knows she can stay in my house as long as she wants, is she really intending to go? im so confused? any help or ideas will be great. Reply to this Question
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reader, oliviaclairex +, writes (8 June 2011):
 If I was you, I'd say the same. Why don't you try talk to her and see what she wants, and if she wants to go off for a bit, take a cray year out, then let her know you love her but won't be waiting for her at the end, if she choses to do that. And I 100% believe if she wants that, you don't go back to her. On the other hand, if she knows you won't be waiting for her, she probably won't leave.
Your right, if you love someone and you're with them, no one else should matter. But sometimes, when you've been with someone for a long time, you need some time out for some fun or it just gets boring, but that's only for some people.
For me, if I'm with someone and love someone, that's it for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe have been together a long time and I love her deeply.
If as you say she wants "the excitement of getting with other guys" then as far am im concerned thats it! Im not going to be convinient to come back to when she has had her fun. We go out oftern we do things - infact she complains sometimes when i try to get her to go out as she "wants to spend time at home"
As far as im concerned if you want to be with someone - your with that person? not looking for fresh experiences with others. (if you could do that I wouldnt say you really loved the person you was with)
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reader, oliviaclairex +, writes (7 June 2011):
Have you two been together for a long time?
There could be many reasons for that, I was once with a guy for absolutely ages, and I loved the bones off him but because I'd been with him for so long I wanted to go out, and wanted the excitement of getting with other guys, and she sounds like what I was like,
If she's started being more affectionate it sounds like she wants to go out and have some fun for a bit, but is trying to make sure you don't properly leave, and that's why she's being affectionate now so you know she still loves you etc.
Why don't you suggest a break? And go out with your friends, get a hobby or just keep yourself busy, and she can do the same. And then just see what happens x
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