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writes:My girlfriend gave birth 3 months ago. We study abroad and were able to hide it from our parents. She managed to tell hers though when she was half way through her pregnancy. The thing is our parents don't really approve of the two of us being together. (We used to go out and it didn't end well). Her parents went to where we are and they were pretty supportive. Now my child is 3 months old and is in our country with my girlfriends parents. I haven't told mine yet. At first I was confident about having the baby but as it progressed I hesitated. I still took care of my gf and my child when he came, but right now I'm just confused.. I want to be with my child.. I'm terrified of my folks.. and I'm just losing my mind trying to make a step. Reply to this Question
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reader, lovelyeyes  +, writes (15 March 2011):
I think u should open up to witch ever parent u feel more comfortable with. If u come out to both parents @ the same time they will both feed off of eachothers anger. So I think u should do it 1 @ a time. I realy wish u the best. U realy need to stand up for your baby. The baby is part of u now. Please keep us updated w/this.
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reader, missy_musk  +, writes (14 March 2011):
 You parents are in for a shock. The biggest shock of their lives i suspect. How will your parents feel knowing you couldnt tell them that you have a child? I can pretty much guarentee that this will not go down well with your parents for you not telling them, after all its not like you left the oven on is it? But at the end of the day you need to tell them. Your a father now and your child needs you to start acting like a dad and not like a child that is scared of its parents! You need to call them. This is something life changing and your parents deserve to be told face to face but since your too scared of them then you need to tell them over the phone. There are a lot worse things in the world other then becoming a parent you know! i do wish you the best of luck and i do sincerely hope it goes well but you do need to brace yourself for a lot of upset on your parents part. please do post back and let us know how it goes and feel free to mail me!
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reader, pompey54 +, writes (13 March 2011):
pompey54 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm abroad still and don't know how to tell them.. How do you suppose I go about it? I figured I'd email them first then call them..
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reader, pompey54 +, writes (13 March 2011):
pompey54 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm abroad still.. how do you suppose I tell them? I thought of sending them an email first then calling them.
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (13 March 2011):
 Your in your early twenties, and you now have a kid.
Your supposed to be an adult now, it's time to "fess up".
Tell them now. If shit hits the fan, well so be it.
You'll survive.
You say your terrified of your parents.
What are they going to do, spank you, maybe send you to bed without supper?
Time to "Bite the bullet" so to speak. Your a Dad now.
Start acting like one, and "step up to the plate"!
Besides, how's your girlfriend going to feel about having a "WIMP" for a boyfriend and father for her child?
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reader, lovelyeyes +, writes (13 March 2011):
I think once your parents see there 1st grandchild they will be supportive. They realy don't have a choice now. I think they will be more mad in the future when they missed out on all the fun part of the baby. U need to stand up and not act like your ashame of this baby. U need to act proud of your child and then they will respect that more. Its not like they can do anything about now anyways. But u should say something Now. I'm pretty sure they would want to meet the baby. Its still there blood.
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