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writes: Hi, a short question. If your girlfriend cheated on you with a guy and he has a girlfriend would you tell his girlfriend about it? Very hurt and confused as I was with her a very long time and I was trying to sort out my relationship problems but it turns out this guy would just not let her try to work things out with me.She phoned him from my phone. Just got my bill in and I have his home phone number.Advice would be very much appreciated.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (29 May 2006):
 I must add, I have to agree with both Martini and Dr Pete on this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2006): Ah I think Dr. Pete did something very nice for that girl. You see, I always believed that good friends are those who will break it to you even if it hurts. Those who don't are just out to protect themselves.
Mind you however, you are unrelated to that guy's girlfriend. Personally, I would find exposing that bastard to the girl a bit petty. Then again, it is an understandable reaction. [ponders] I think then if I were forced to choose, then yes I think you should. In a matter of morality, both you and that other girl should look elsewhere for love.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (29 May 2006):
Think about how you would react to a phone call out of the blue telling you the information you are about to impart. Then act on how that makes you feel.
If it was ME mind I would.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (29 May 2006):
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (29 May 2006):
I don't believe you shouldn't tell his girlfriend, i think you should talk to him and tell him to confess to her. Give him a chance to be honest with her and to admitt to what he's done.
I espeically don't think you should tell her out of revenge because it isn't right to destory someone elses relatiosnhip just to feel a little satisfaction.
Call him, give him the push he needs to confess to her but also give him the time to.
But if all else fails tell her, no person likes to be made a fool of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2006): You know what, I think this could be quite a difficult question.
There was this similar situation I had, I knew a guy that was cheating on his girlfriend and she was completely oblivious to it. Actually, tons of people knew what this guy was really like but every single one of them thought it wasn't there business to say any thing, looking back on it, I can see none of these people were very good friends at all. I said something though - I told her. She was very upset, but, she is now over him - she saw his true colours. If I hadn't of told her - she could still be with him, falsely believing that this guy was the love of her life, she could have got married - had children with him - whilst all along, he was cheating on her. I done her a BIG favour that day.
On to your situation... What is your motive behind telling her? Is it revenge? Or do you want her to know what he is really like? Revenge isn't all it's cracked up to be, but, telling someone something you would like to know yourself is another matter.
In a short answer, I probably would tell her, yes. She deserves better than to be with a cheater and you are the only one who can tell her what her boyfriend is really like.
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