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writes:i'm alone this xmas.MY Girlfriend of 15 month's get's up and dump's me over asking her " do u still fancy me? " 2 weekend's ago she went out and stayed out and that when i think Things Changed. i'm 25 she's 20.she keep's saying how she's not eating or sleeping. we've been txting each over every day. not today she's got no credit she been txting her mate 2 much. the werldest thing that saturday night she went out and stayed out all night she was out with this friend. the day before she dumped she was saying how she was talking to this friend. and when i spoke to my brother's girlfriend who is staying at my ex's mom and dad's house. she told me she been talking to my ex and my ex said she been talking 2 her mate and her boyfriend my ex didn't say she been talking to her friend's boyfriend. she dumped me wednesday 13th Dec. and on the thursday 14th Dec she got her thing's and moved into her mom's till the weekend and then she was moveing in with her brother. she's been there since. i told her that thursday (i hope i can see you soon) my ex want's me to go shoppin with my mom (very wednesday) just 2 see her. she txt me this week 2 see me on tuesday 19th Dec she wanted to come up and see me and get the money i owed her. tuesday - everything went well spoke about a few thing's like rumor's about her going back to some guy's house that saturday night she stayed out. the rumor about her seeing some new guy. she told me she hated working at Morrison's because people just make lie's up about her. and she told me heard a rumor i didn't like know like. she asked a guy that work's at her work's out. she told me because she single every girl think's she dateing all the guy's now. and i walked her to the bus stop. at the bus stop (4.30pm) i stood there saying " can i have a kiss " she went to peck me on the cheek i said " no lip's " she did but i wanted a snog. she pecked and she pulled away and got on the bus. i giver her 3 picture's and i wrote some nice thing's on the back of them like was me sitting at my pc with a teddy i bought her i wrote on that " i know i bought naked boy (it's the name of the teddy because we losed is coat and he's naked lol) but i'm keeping him so every night when i go 2 bed it seem's like your still with me " on the back of a picture of us in portugal (july holiday) i put " this picture mean's alot 2 me because you was pregnant when it was taken u can blame this r-ship on the miscarrage but i'm not because as long as i had u i was happy. and i thought as long as u had me u was 2. i thought it was nice. i txt her asking if she liked it she told me she did and would treasure them for life. on thursday i txted her saying " i'm sorry 4 kissing you " she txt me back saying " don't be sorry i only pushed away because i don't wanna fuck your head up " i txt back " you can never fuck my head up. " she told me " sorry i know this is all my fault " i txt her back saying " none of this your fault i told her i would wait 5 year's " she told me " i sould be with someone who will be nicer to me than she was and she deserved to be on her own " i told her she didn't deserve to be on her she deserved to be with me " we txted each over till thursday night when i told her i was comeing with my mom and brother 2 do our xmas shoppin. she told me she would bring my shoe (which i packed in her thing's) didn't even notice. she told me she would bring them 2 her work's on friday i got there she had no phone or shoe's. told me she lefted them at her brother's she was running late. but when i saw her i said " hello " she had this big smile on her face. like she was happy 2 see me or something. she told me she had no credit on her phone because been ringin her mate.i think it was a brave face to try to show me she's happy without me she's one of these people that doesn't show her (sad) side 2 anyone.on friday night i went to her work's at 4pm when she finshed and i saw her get on the bus i didn't speak 2 her i just wanted to see her (spying) some people call it but i just wanted to see her again. do u think there's still hope 4 us?do u think she's not belling her mate but belling a new guy?do u think she gonna be happy without me?do u think her mate put her up to her dumping me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2006): Seriously, you need to stop bugging her! Yes, you have feelings for her, and its no fun being by yourself at Christmas, but I can almost hear her (silently) "yelling" at you to give her some space!
I doubt very much whether her friend put her up to dumping you, and who knows whether she'll be happy without you in the long run - but its a fair bet that she'll be happier without you at the moment, sorry to say!
Get on with your own life, and let her get on with hers. Remember, you ARE broken up, so if she does start dating other guys, it is no longer any concern of yours - and by the same token, you are free to date other women, when you feel ready to, that is.
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (24 December 2006):
 Basically I think that you should give your ex some space. I think that it is most unfair if you keep watching her, plus if you give her space she will have a chance to miss you. Let her try and live a single life, once she realises that its not that great. I am sure that she will come crawling back to you.
Until then just leave her be and let her make her own mind up.
Good luck hunny. xxx
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