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writes:My wife and I have a fairly open relationship. Recently I met a girl at a party and we got on well. We eventually slept together a couple of times, my wife being aware and okay with it. The three of us spent a few evenings and days hanging out.However, this girl recently got out of a long-term serious relationship and is taking the chance to see many different men. Soon enough she stopped contacting me.While I think that it is reasonable for her to do this, I am feeling quite rejected all the same. I don't feel like it would be appropriate to discuss it with my wife (at least, not at length).Who can I talk to? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the responses, you all make good points. I am going to keep talking to my wife, who has been very good so far.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (8 July 2013):
 If you are having feelings of rejection and you want to talk about it without being judged, I strongly suggest a professional therapist.
as for feeling rejected... I can assure you it's not personal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2013): Depends on how much of the open relationship was your wife's idea. If you guys are very much in the swing of things (pun intended), and mutually *happy* with this arrangement, then by all means, talk to her about it! She's your best friend -- at least, she's supposed to be. Make sure that somewhere in all the angsting over this girl on the side, you let your wife know she's loved, valued, and appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2013): I think the best advice is why don't you try to be loyal to your wife?
Just forget about the girl on the side.
At least your wife will always be there for you, unlike the girl your thinking of, she's thinking of someone else or should i say something else. But definitely NOT YOU.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 July 2013):
 If you don't have any friends you can turn to then hire a therapist they at least HAVE to listen to you.
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