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writes:My girlfriend seems to be stressed about something every second day. I always think it's reasonable to be stressed about the thing, and it'll pass, but as soon as it does, we have one great happy day, then there's a new problem. The usual sort of causes are her having money problems, moving house, meeting anyone from my life (even though this is rare), going on holiday or me having said something wrong. For example, when she goes quiet for half a day (saying she's fine but avoiding all eye contact) and I'm trying to comfort her, but suggest the wrong thing might be wrong, then she gets upset for me thinking that might be the problem.I feel uncomfortable and like I'm walking on egg shells. Even during the good times I feel I have to be careful. I've told her it's a problem for me a few times, and she tells it's part of relationships, and we have much fewer problems than other couples and that they're always arguing and stuff. We never argue, she just stops talking, and I only get annoyed with her for being annoyed too often (but I keep it to myself).Any thoughtful advice on this situation would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your help everyone. It's good to know it's not normal and not something I just have to live with. I'll give you an up-date when I get a better chance. thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): Her behavior is actually NOT normal or part of a HEALTHY relationship, just so you know. You should NOT feel like your walking on egg shells. And she should not feel like its ok to give you the cold shoulder and put that kind of stress on you for any stupid reason, if AT ALL.
I mean if you had cheated on her, she broke up with you, and you happen to run into her and then she gives you the cold shoulder, that's understandable.
I don't want to be mean or disrespect your girl, but she kinda sucks. And what she's doing is not normal or even cool. She's just very immature. That's all. There are PLENTY of way cooler girls out there.
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reader, marieclaire  +, writes (9 August 2007):
 i'll be honest. i AM that girl. and its a pain for you i understand but she's obviously just an emotional person and maybe you should just comfort her but take her moods with a pinch of salt so that they don't affect you so deeply. you should tell her how you feel and she might let you know that you don't have to tread on eggshells because it will all blow over. but dont' expect her to change, you just have to consider whether or not you can learn to deal with those moods and if its worth it to you
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reader, smilingeyes  +, writes (9 August 2007):
Men are logical and women are emotional. When a woman is being emotional she doesn't want logical solutions from her partner. What she wants is to know that her partner is there for her emotionally. Don't say anything to help her solve her problem because she can usually do that on her own. The best thing to do is to put your arms around her, give her a big hug and let her know you care.
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reader, spanna +, writes (9 August 2007):
 i'm not gonna lie to you, us girls are very strange creatures. most of the time we arent even sure wot is wrong, which is why we cant even tell you but it sounds silly to say to your partner. i sometimes get down for no reason whatsoever sometimes although to be fair it doesnt happen every other day. it will happen every 6 8 weeks. and i know my bf goes though it abit coz i have the hump for no reason it could be sometime he said and i took it the wrong way or thought it meant something else. then i send a week thinking how horrible i am and how i dont deserve someone like him to cope with it all. i dont really know wot to suggest i just know that you are not the only couple like this. but it also isnt fair for you to be treading on egg shells all the time. i think you should talk to her to be honest. dont ask her what is wrong, coz that wont get you anywhere asi am sure you are aware. but tell her how you are feeling, i know if my bf done that i would then feel so bad i would want to change to make him happy. i do try i must admit and i do hate myself for the way i treat him sometimes :( try it what have you got to lose? you deserve to be happy and so does she. message me if you wold like any more help
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