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writes:I'm in a tight problem. This woman that I love and have been loving all year is bi-sexual and has a girlfriend. This is the first time I've ever felt this strong for someone. I think about her all the time and put her before I do myself. It's crazy. If something was to go south I don't know what I would do. I've been trying to wait it out for her and her girlfriend to break up with each other but starting to loose hope in it. I keep telling myself that I'll only give it one (1) more week and then I'm calling it quits, What gets me is when I find something out that they did together like taking a shower together. When I hear stuff like that it's like my heart explodes. After that, she always makes me feel better by doing something even though she thinks that what she said didn't bother me at all, but that's only what she thinks. It's like right now I'm thinking only about her and nothing else. Am I just waiting for a lost cause or barking up the wrong tree? What should I do about this situation? Any help would be so so much appreciated. Thanks.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 http://www.dearcupid.org/question/tired-of-waiting-on-a-woman-who-is.html
Duplicate question, here's the link to the other one.
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reader, trigger127  +, writes (20 February 2011):
hey, I dont mean to sound harsh but by the sound of it, she doesnt give a sh*t about anyone but herself. Its not right for her to be using the fact that she is bi to have the best of both worlds. Its just greedy and its really not fair on you or her other partner. I think you need to sit down and have a talk with her and her other partner tell her how u feel and if she still persists on being with the both of you I think you need to tell her its over.Has she introduced you to her famale partner?Does the other partner feel the same as you? Find out and pull your girlfriend up about it Im bisexual myself and Im with a guy I really care about and i wouldnt ever think of doing something like that. But this isnt about me.. its about you. Tell her how u feel and if she cant handle it then its her problem not yours and just move on.and another thing when u do find someone else make sure there only interested in being with one person like you.well good luck and hope it all works out
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reader, chigirl +, writes (20 February 2011):
I don't understand if this is your girlfriend or not? The title says girlfriend, but your question doesn't mention it. Is she just a person you are in love with at a distance, a friend of yours who you are not in a relationship with? Or is she actually your girlfriend, but she wants to have more than one partner?
If she's not into being monogamous, and you are, then there's no other choice but to leave her alone and find a woman who is interested in only having one partner: you.
In either case, if this girl is not your girlfriend, but someone you'd like to be with, you should still move on. She's already with someone else. And there's no point to hang around and hope they will break it off.
Call it quits today, go get some beers and hang out with some friends, and move on.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 If someone is bi-sexual it does NOT entitle them to have one male and one female partner... It's still cheating... I'm surprised she's convinced you to be ok with this so far.
I'd grow a spine and leave her dude... your situation is f***** up.
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reader, mikegates30 +, writes (20 February 2011):
you got 2 choices: have a threesome, or drop it. not worth the struggle man.
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